The Complete Guide to Carrying Newborns and Babies

Tips for holding your baby correctly and putting them to sleep


Practical methods by age and measures to prevent back-switching and night crying

The scientific basis for holding a newborn baby

The importance of the M-shaped split

Only humans need long-term cuddling

Biological reasons and prevention of hip dislocation

"Why do human babies need to be held for so long?"


To answer this question, let's first compare it to other mammals.



Baby animals such as horses and cows stand up immediately after being born.

He can walk on his own and keep up with his mother.


In behavioral biology, this is called "nesting."




Human babies , on the other hand, are classified as "brooding."


While protected in the nest (in this case, in the mother's arms),

You need to grow slowly.




Why is it that only humans have evolved in this way?



The answer lies in the size of the human brain .


The weight of a human baby's head is

It accounts for about one-third of your body weight.




This is equivalent to a weight of 20 kg for an adult weighing 60 kg.



If a baby is born fully developed,

Her head is too big and she will not be able to give birth.


Therefore, human babies are born in an "incomplete state",

They need to continue growing in the protection of being held .




[About the importance of the M-shaped split]



The " M-legged position " that you often hear when holding a baby is

This isn't just a form of cuddling.


For healthy hip development in babies

It is a very important physiological posture .




In the mother's womb, the baby always bends its knees,

I spend my time with my hip joints open.


By recreating this "memory of being in the womb" even after birth,

The baby can feel safe.




Furthermore, the M-shaped leg spread is also important for preventing hip dislocation .



According to data from the Japanese Pediatric Orthopedic Society,

Holding the baby without maintaining the correct M-shaped leg position ,

If you continue to hold your baby with his legs stretched out,

It has been shown to increase the risk of developmental dysplasia of the hip by nearly 10 times .




The M-shaped position that babies naturally adopt is

It is by no means a coincidence,

Instinctively for healthy development,

It's a very reasonable stance .




Holding a baby is not just a way to comfort a baby,

It is essential for the baby's physical and mental development

It is a child-rearing practice based on scientific evidence .

Please keep this in mind.

[By age] 4 basic ways to hold your baby correctly

Side hold, vertical hold, koala hold

How to safely use the football hold

"There are so many ways to hold a baby , I don't know which one to choose..."


In fact, the way you hold your baby depends on the age of the baby and

It is important to use them according to the purpose at the time.




[1. Side-holding] - Basic posture for newborns



During the neonatal period (up to 28 days after birth),

Since the baby's neck is not yet strong enough, it is best to hold him or her sideways .


However, there are some things that many people do when holding their baby sideways :

In fact, there is an important point that is often overlooked.




The most important thing is,

The key is to be conscious of the shape of the "float hug."


Wrap your arms around your baby as if you were making a swim ring.

Keep your baby in an M-shape with his knees pointing forward.



The mistake that many people make is

Putting your hand between the baby 's legs.


This will twist your body,

This can lead to an uncomfortable position for the baby .




[2. Upright Holding (Koala Hold)] - Recommended position from 1 month old -



Many people may think that holding a newborn upright is dangerous .

This is actually due to an old view of child-rearing.



Recent research shows that proper neck and head support can:

It has been found that holding babies upright is recommended from around one month of age .



The biggest advantage of vertical support is

It utilizes your baby 's natural ability to cling.


Human babies have an instinctive "clinging reflex" as primates,

By exerting this force when holding the baby upright ,

This allows for a more stable hold .




Proper koala cuddle procedure :



1. Hold the baby 's head and neck firmly with one hand

2. With your other hand, wrap your entire buttocks around them to support them.

3. Place your baby against your chest

4. Your baby 's feet will maintain their natural M-shape.




[3. Football Hold] ~A special way to hold your baby while breastfeeding~



The football hold is a hold that is mainly used when breastfeeding,

It's actually very effective at getting your baby to sleep .



It is especially useful in the following cases:

- When you want to avoid putting strain on your stomach after a cesarean section

- When breastfeeding twin babies at the same time

- When your breasts are large and it is difficult to breastfeed in the normal position




With a football ,

Hold the baby under your arm

It supports the ball like holding a rugby ball.


In this position, mom's hands don't get tired easily.

You can comfortably hold your baby for long periods of time.




[4. Tips for different ages]



0-1 month: Mainly horizontal holding , sometimes vertical holding

1-3 months old: Mainly holding the baby vertically (koala hold)

3-6 months: Mix and match to your baby 's tastes

After 6 months: Flexible depending on your baby 's activity




The important thing is that no matter which way you choose to hold your baby ,

Respect your baby's natural position .


If your baby doesn't like it,

Don't force yourself to hold your baby in a certain way.

Let's try another method.

12 reasons why newborns cry when held and how to deal with them by age

Reasons for crying change between 0 and 12 months of age

Scientific analysis and quick solutions

"I'm holding him but he won't stop crying ... what's wrong?"


This is a common problem that all moms and dads experience.


However, the reasons why babies cry vary greatly depending on their age.

Each requires a different approach.




[0-1 month old: Crying due to physiological needs]



The crying of a newborn baby

Almost 100% of cases are caused by physiological discomfort.


"I want attention" and "I want to be held "

Emotional needs are not yet developed.



Items to check, in order of priority :



1. Hunger : The most common cause of crying

If it's been 2-3 hours since the last feeding, your baby is almost certainly hungry


2. Excretion : Dirty diapers cause severe discomfort

Not only does he cry when he poops, but he also cries when he pees.


3. Temperature : Newborns are not yet mature enough to regulate their body temperature.

Ideally, the room temperature should be 24-26°C and the humidity 50-60%.


4. Burping : If my baby doesn't burp after feeding, he will cry in pain.

Hold your baby upright and gently stroke his back




[1-3 months: sensory development and adaptation to the environment]



During this period, your baby 's senses develop rapidly.

You will become more sensitive to stimuli from the outside world.



New causes of crying :



5. Hyperstimulation : Sensitive reactions to light, sound, and touch

Try holding your baby in a quiet, dimly lit environment


6. Moro reflex : Surprising yourself with involuntary limb movements

Lightly wrapping your baby in a swaddling cloth will help them feel more secure.


7. Colic (twilight crying) : Unexplained crying in the evening

This is a physiological phenomenon that continues until around three months of age.




[3-6 months: Social and emotional development]



At this point, your baby 's crying begins to take on an emotional component.



8. Loneliness and anxiety : Crying when mommy is out of sight

Hold your baby and talk to him/her while showing your face.


9. Lack of stimulation : Boredom can lead to crying.

Distract them with toys and songs


10. Sleep rhythm disruption : When the distinction between day and night begins

Keep the environment bright during the day and dark at night




[6-12 months: Developing sense of self and separation anxiety]



Crying during this period is also a sign of your baby 's emotional development.



11. Separation anxiety : intense fear of being without mom

Gradually create some time for yourself and get used to it


12. The emergence of self-awareness : Crying out of the desire to do something

Accept your baby 's wishes and let them have freedom within safe limits.




[What to do when your baby cries even when you hold him/her]



If your child still cries even after all physiological needs have been met,

Changing the way you hold your baby can be effective .



- Change from horizontal to vertical holding

- Walk slowly while holding the baby

-Find your baby 's preferred height (chest height, shoulder height, etc.)

- Mommy and Daddy take turns holding the baby




What's most important is,

Accept that crying is a baby's job .


You don't have to stop all crying immediately.

After ensuring safety, you can wait and see for a while.

This is an important time to develop your baby 's sense of independence.

[Q&A Part 1] Complete answers to your concerns and questions about holding a newborn baby

Is it dangerous to hold a baby upright before they can hold their head up?

Is holding your baby for an hour straight bad for your body?

Q1: Is it dangerous to hold a newborn baby upright before he or she can hold his or her head up?


A: Proper neck and head support

There is absolutely no problem with holding your baby upright from around one month after birth.


Rather, the latest in pediatrics is focusing on the benefits of holding babies upright .



Upright holding can have the following effects:

- Burping becomes easier

- Relief of gastroesophageal reflux symptoms

- Promotes brain development through visual stimulation

- Promoting attachment through close contact with the mother



However, it is assumed that you do it the right way.



Support the back of your head and neck firmly with one hand,

It's important to support your hips with your other hand .




Q2: Is it okay to hold a baby for more than an hour straight?

Are there any adverse effects on the baby's body?


A: There is absolutely no problem with holding your baby continuously for about an hour.




For newborn babies , holding them for long periods of time is a natural environment.



In fact, in traditional child-rearing in Africa and South America,

Babies spend most of their day in their mother's arms.


This promotes emotional stability and healthy development in babies .

This is evident from cultural anthropological studies.



However, please note the following:

- Don't stay in the same position (change your position occasionally)

-Does not restrict baby 's breathing

- Do it within the limits of the mother's physical condition




Q3: If I hold my baby a lot,

Will he get used to being held and not be able to stand on his own?



A: The concept of "cuddle addiction" has no scientific basis.




On the contrary, babies who receive enough hugs are more likely to

Multiple studies have shown that this makes people more likely to act independently in the future.



According to psychologist Bowlby's attachment theory,

A secure attachment relationship with parents who serve as a safe base

It lays the foundation for a child's exploratory behavior and independence.



Rather than worrying about "holding your baby too much,"

It is important to provide responsive cuddles when your baby asks for them .




Q4: After a night feed, do you put your baby to sleep by holding him or her?

Is it better to put it on the futon right away or put it on the mattress?


A: The best way to decide is based on the age of the baby and their condition .



0-3 months : It is recommended to put your baby to sleep by holding him/her .

-Newborns sleep lightly and need a sense of security

- Mother's heartbeat and body temperature improve sleep quality


3-6 months : Gradually start practicing falling asleep on your own

- If he seems sleepy, place him under his futon and observe his behavior.

- If the baby cries, comfort them by holding them for a short time.


From 6 months : Encourage independent sleep habits

- Get into the habit of sleeping in a futon as much as possible

- However, we will be flexible in cases such as when you are unwell.




Q5: Why does my baby arch his back when I hold him?

Is it because I'm holding it wrong?


A: Arching is not necessarily a problem with how you hold your baby.


This could be due to the following factors:



Physiological factors :

- Discomfort caused by gastroesophageal reflux disease

- Constipation and bloating

- Excitement due to drowsiness


Developmental factors :

- Natural movement through muscle development

- A manifestation of the desire for visual exploration


Environmental factors :

- Uncomfortable room temperature and humidity

- Tight clothing



As a solution, try changing the angle of your hug,

Holding a koala is effective in broadening your field of vision .



If arching persists, we recommend consulting your pediatrician.

5 proven ways to scientifically manipulate your back switch

The physiological reasons that occur when placing

A complete solution technique directly taught by a midwife

"The moment I thought he had finally fallen asleep and put him down on his futon,

A switch in my back flips on and I wake up..."


More than 90% of mothers suffer from this phenomenon.



However, the "back switch" is a normal reaction caused by a baby's survival instinct ,

If we understand how it works, we can solve it with a scientific approach.




[Physiological mechanism that activates the back switch]



The moment your baby is placed in bed, he wakes up.

This is because the following three sense organs react simultaneously:



1. Vestibular sense (balance) : Detects changes in posture

2. Somatosensation (skin sensation) : Detects changes in temperature and pressure

3. Hearing : Detects the loss of the mother's heartbeat



These changes occur simultaneously,

An alarm is sent to the brain that "you have left a safe place"

This triggers an arousal response .




[Scientific Strategy 1: Gradual Transition Method]



The most effective method is to

"Changing the environment in stages."



Practical steps :

1. Wait 5 minutes while sitting and holding your baby

2. Slowly lean forward and bring your baby closer to the futon.

3. Even if your baby 's back touches the futon, don't let go right away.

4. Continue supporting your back and head with your hands for 1-2 minutes.

5. Slowly release each hand at a time



This method prevents sudden changes in vestibular sensation,

It has been proven that it can reduce the activation of the back switch by more than 80% .




[Scientific strategy 2: Temperature difference elimination method]



The temperature difference between the baby 's back and the bedding is also a major factor in waking up.



Countermeasures :

- Warm your futon beforehand (to about 30°C using a hot water bottle or electric blanket)

- Warm the blanket with your own hands before putting your baby down

- Place a thin towel on your baby 's back before moving him to his futon




[Scientific strategy 3: Acoustic environment maintenance method]



The loss of the mother's heartbeat and breathing can cause anxiety to the baby .



Solution :

-Makes a continuous "shhh shhh" sound while putting the baby to sleep

- The same sound continues even after placing it on the futon

- Use a white noise machine

- Use of a recording of the mother's heartbeat




[Scientific Strategy 4: Using Swaddling Clothes]



Swaddling suppresses the Moro reflex ,

It has the effect of recreating the environment inside the womb.



How to properly swaddle a baby :

1. Arms along the body, hands near the face

2. Maintain a natural M-shape in your hip joints

3. Make sure it's tight enough so you can breathe

4. Leave room for your ankles to move freely



By using a swaddling cloth,

Research has shown that the rate at which the back switch is activated can be reduced by 60% .




[Scientific Strategy 5: Utilizing Sleep Cycles]



Understand your baby 's sleep cycles

It is important to move them to bed at the right time.



Newborn Sleep Patterns :

- REM sleep (light sleep): 50%

- Non-REM sleep (deep sleep): 50%

- 1 cycle: about 50-60 minutes



The optimal time to transition is

This is 15-20 minutes after entering non-REM sleep .



Key points to consider:

- Regular breathing

- Complete weakness in the limbs

- No eye movement under the eyelids




By combining these five methods,

Dramatically reduces the activation of the back switch,

This allows for smooth sleep.



It takes practice at first,

By continuing for 1-2 weeks, you will definitely get the hang of it.

New common sense for putting newborns to sleep

The scientific use of 50% REM sleep

The truth of the 3-hour cycle

Efficient sleep-training techniques using short-term awakenings

" My newborn baby wakes up after 30 minutes...is this normal?"

"I heard that he should be fed every three hours , but sometimes he wakes up after just one hour..."



In fact, newborns' sleep patterns are fundamentally different from those of adults.

Understanding this difference is key to effective sleep training .




[Scientific characteristics of newborn sleep]



Newborn baby sleep has the following special characteristics:



1. 50% REM sleep

REM sleep accounts for about 20% of adults

Newborns spend half their sleep time in REM sleep .



During REM sleep, the brain is active

They are easily awakened by even the slightest stimulation.



2. Short sleep cycles

The adult sleep cycle is 90-120 minutes.

A newborn baby completes one cycle in 50-60 minutes .

Therefore, it is normal for you to wake up naturally after about an hour.



3. Underdeveloped day-night rhythm

Melatonin production stabilizes around 3-4 months of age .

Until then, you will experience short periods of sleep and wakefulness, regardless of the time of day or night.




[The truth behind the 3-hour cycle myth]



Many parenting books recommend that babies be fed and sleep every three hours .

It is actually a statistical average,

It's not for all babies .



Actual newborn sleep patterns :

- Wide range of individual differences from 30 minutes to 4 hours

- 15-18 short sleeps per day

- Maximum continuous sleep is about 4 hours



The important thing is not to stick to "exactly three hours",

Observe your baby's natural rhythms .




[Efficient method for putting children to sleep using REM sleep]



Taking advantage of the characteristics of REM sleep in newborns ,

There are ways to get your baby to sleep efficiently.



Method 1: Gradual awakening method


Before your baby wakes up naturally (45-50 minutes after the onset of sleep),

A gentle stimulation is given to intentionally create a shallow state of arousal.


Specific steps:

1. Gently touch your baby 's feet

2. Check that the eyes are open but not fully awake.

3. Gently cuddle your baby back to sleep

4. Enter natural deep sleep in the next cycle



This method allows:


This helps you fall into a deeper sleep in the next sleep cycle,

You can expect 2-3 hours of continuous sleep.




Method 2: Inducing sleep through environmental adjustments


Set up your newborn 's sleep environment to help them sleep better.



Temperature control :

- Maintain room temperature at 22-24°C

- Humidity adjusted to 50-60%

-Check if your baby 's hands and feet are cold


Acoustic environment :

- Not completely silent, but white noise that resembles the sound inside the womb

- Mother's heartbeat (60-80 bpm)

- Avoid sudden sound changes


Light environment :

- Complete blackout at night

- A dimly lit environment even during the day (to prevent future day-night reversal)

- Minimize lighting when breastfeeding




[Strategies for dealing with short-term awakenings]



This is what to do if your newborn wakes up every 30 minutes to an hour.



The "wait and see" approach :

Even if your baby opens his eyes, don't pick him up right away, but wait 2-3 minutes to see how he reacts.

In the case of transient awakening during REM sleep,

You may fall asleep again naturally.



Stepped intervention :

1. Calling (a gentle "shhhhhhh" sound)

2. Light touch (hand on stomach)

3. Slow rocking

4. Holding your baby as a last resort




[Discovering personal patterns through sleep recording]



For efficient sleep ,

It's important to understand your baby's individual sleep patterns .



Items to record:

- Sleep start time

- Sleep time (continuous/total)

- Behavior upon awakening (crying, good mood, etc.)

- Relationship with breastfeeding

-How to put your baby to sleep and its effects



After 1-2 weeks of recording,

The child's unique sleep rhythm becomes clear,

This enables predictive and efficient childcare .




With a scientifically based understanding,

The stress of "not sleeping"

A positive attitude of "Let's understand this child's rhythm"

You will be able to convert.

Age-specific strategies for putting your baby to sleep

Developmental strategies for babies from 0 to 12 months

Moro reflex, day-night reversal, night crying

Evidence-based medical strategies for peak periods

Putting your baby to sleep depends on the developmental stage of the baby's age.

We need to change our strategy.



By understanding the characteristics of each period and taking appropriate measures,

This allows for efficient and less stressful sleep .




[0-1 month after birth: period of establishing the basic environment]



The most important thing for a newborn at this stage is

It recreates the environment inside the womb .



Main features :

- Sleep duration: 16-20 hours a day

- Continuous sleep: 30 minutes to 4 hours

- No difference between day and night

-Frequent awakenings due to the Moro reflex



Countermeasures :


Thorough use of swaddling cloths

The Moro reflex is a normal reflex that continues until 4-6 months of age.

It is a major cause of sleep disruption.


Proper swaddling technique:

- Cross your arms in front of your chest

- Leave room for free movement of the hip joints

- One finger's width of room around the neck

- Always check for breathing


Optimizing the sound environment

It utilizes a continuous sound (60-70 decibels) that is similar to the sound heard inside the womb.

Specifically, the sound of a vacuum cleaner, a hair dryer,

Alternatively, a dedicated white noise machine can be effective.




[1-3 months after birth: preparation period for rhythm formation]



From this time on, the waking time gradually increases,

Preparations for the formation of day and night rhythms begin.



Main features :

- Continuous sleep: Extended to 2-5 hours

- Awakening time: 30 minutes to 1 hour

- The emergence of social smiles

- Peak of colic (crying at night)



Countermeasures :


Introduction of day and night distinction

Although we cannot expect a complete improvement in day-night reversal yet,

Begin preparations for future rhythm formation.


- Bright light at 7am

- Only dim lights when feeding at night

- Active holding during the day, quiet holding at night


Colic treatment

How to deal with unexplained evening crying ( colic ):

- Koala hugs put pressure on the stomach

- Place a warm towel on your stomach

- Slow, regular rocking

- It's important to be prepared to accept the situation




[3-6 months: Establishing day-night rhythm]



Melatonin secretion begins to stabilize,

This is an important period in which a proper day-night rhythm is formed.



Main features :

- Continuous sleep at night: 5-8 hours

- Number of naps: 3-4 times

-The beginning of night crying

- Starting to roll over (safety measures required)



Countermeasures :


Strengthening day-night rhythms

We will thoroughly create an environment that promotes synchronization of the body clock.


- Maintain a consistent wake-up time in the morning

- Active in bright environments during the day

- Gradually dim the lights in the evening

- Establish a bedtime routine


Measures to prevent night crying

Night crying begins around 3-4 months of age ,

This is a normal part of brain development.


Effective measures:

- First, observe the situation for 3-5 minutes.

- Step-by-step intervention (voice → touch → hug )

- Once they wake up, let them fully wake up before putting them back to sleep

- Adjust the amount of stimulation during the day




[6-9 months: Establishing sleeping habits]



This is the peak of night crying ,

At the same time, this is an important time for children to develop independent sleep habits.



Main features :

- Night sleep: 10-12 hours

- Naps: 2-3 times

- Peak of night crying

- The emergence of separation anxiety

- Increased exercise through crawling



Countermeasures :


Promoting independent sleep

From putting your baby to sleep in your arms ,

This is a transitional period in which your child develops the ability to sleep on their own.


- Place it on your futon when you feel sleepy

- Don't put it down until you're completely asleep

- Don't pick up your baby immediately when he/she cries

- Step-by-step support for independence


What to do when night crying peaks

Crying at night during this period is a temporary phenomenon caused by brain development.


- Avoid overstimulation during the day

- Maintain a regular routine

- Be consistent in how you respond to nighttime awakenings

- Building a support system for the whole family




[9-12 months: Independent sleep development stage]



Many babies are now able to sleep through the night,

This is the time when independent sleep habits are established.



Main features :

- Continuous sleep at night: 8-12 hours

- Nap: 1-2 times

- Excitement from standing up or standing up

- Helps put baby to sleep by understanding words



Countermeasures :


Transition to full independence

- Establish a bedtime routine

- Providing an environment where you can sleep on your own

- Minimal intervention during nighttime awakenings

- Adjust nap times



Understand the characteristics of each moon phase,

By putting your child to sleep appropriately according to their developmental stage ,

For both babies and moms and dads

It creates a stress-free sleeping environment .

[Q&A Intermediate] Putting your baby to sleep

Troubleshooter manual

Wakes up after 30 minutes and only falls asleep when held

Emergency measures for when your baby cries for two hours in the middle of the night

Q1: I always wake up every 30 minutes. Is this an illness?


A: Waking up after 30 minutes is completely normal in newborns .


A newborn 's sleep cycle is about 50-60 minutes.

Arousal at that midpoint is physiologically natural.



Please try the following as a workaround:


Avoid immediate responses

Even if you open your eyes, observe the condition for 2-3 minutes.

In the case of transient awakening during REM sleep,

You may find that you fall asleep again naturally without any intervention.


Reviewing the environment

- Ensure the room temperature is appropriate (22-24°C)

- Are there any sudden changes in the sound environment?

- Is the swaddling cloth tight enough?

- Possibility of hunger and excretion



By continuing this procedure for about a week,

You can expect your continuous sleep time to gradually increase .




Q2: My baby only falls asleep when I hold him. Does this mean he has a cuddle habit?


A: The concept of "cuddle addiction" has been scientifically disproven.


From the newborn stage to around 3 months of age,

Holding your baby to sleep is the recommended method .



The reasons behind this behavior are as follows:


biological necessity

- Reassurance from the mother's heartbeat

- Temperature regulation by body temperature

- Movement-induced vestibular stimulation

- Forming attachment through scent



However, after 4-6 months of age, gradually

It is recommended that you transition to independent sleep.


Phased transition method :

1. Put your baby to sleep by holding him/her → Hold him/her when he/she seems sleepy

2. Hold your baby when he/she seems sleepy → Bed when he/she seems sleepy

3. Wait for natural sleep to occur in bed




Q3: My baby keeps crying for two hours in the middle of the night. I'm worried about disturbing the neighbors.


A: Long periods of crying at night are common when a baby is between 3 and 8 months old .

It is a normal response during brain development.



First, please perform the following emergency checks:


Ruling out medical problems

- Check for fever (visit a pediatrician if fever is over 37.5℃)

- Symptoms of constipation or diarrhea

- Skin abnormalities or rashes

- Breathing problems



If you have no medical issues:


Graduated sedation

1. First, talk to your baby gently without holding him for five minutes.

2. Gently rub your stomach and back

3. Walk around holding your baby

4. Change your environment (different room, outside air, etc.)

5. Breastfeeding or formula as a last resort


Driving and walking

A car ride or some fresh air can be dramatically effective.

We recommend that you prepare a method that can be done safely even at night.




Q4: I sleep well during the day, but I can't sleep at all at night.


A: Day and night reversal is a common phenomenon in newborns .

This can be improved with appropriate measures.



Causes of day-night reversal :

- Memories of being active at night in the womb

- Underdeveloped melatonin secretion

- Lack of stimulation during the day

- Overstimulation at night



Scientific improvement method :


Use of light therapy

- 7-8am: 15 minutes of bright natural light

- Daytime: Keep the room well lit

- After dusk: Gradually dim the lights

- Nighttime feeding: Minimal lighting only


Adjusting activity rhythms

- Actively stimulate your child by holding them and playing with them during the day.

- Switch to more static activities in the evening

- Establish a bedtime routine



It takes about 2-4 weeks for improvement to occur.

Consistent response will definitely lead to improvement .




Q5: My baby cries even more when my dad holds him.


A: This is a very common phenomenon .

It's not a problem with the dad's holding technique.



Scientific reasons :

- Accustomed to the smell of their mother

- Anticipation due to breastfeeding memories

-Differences in how well a baby is held

- Instability due to differences in physique



Dad's cuddle success tips :


Choosing the timing

-Choose a time when your baby is not hungry

- Start when you're in a good mood

- Gradually extend from a short time


technical improvements

- Wearing clothes that smell like mommy

- Closer hugs

- Speak slowly and in a low voice

- Shake at a regular rhythm


The importance of continuity

By continuing without giving up even if they cry,

You'll definitely get used to it in a week or two.



Dad's cuddling promotes baby 's social development

It plays an important role in both reducing the burden on mothers.

Baby carrier vs. bare-handed baby carrier

Medical comparative verification of the effects on development

Preventing hip dislocation and holding a koala

Recommended Pediatric Orthopedic Evidence

"Does excessive use of a baby carrier have a negative impact on a baby 's development?"

"Is it true that holding someone with bare hands is easier to convey affection?"



The debate over whether a baby carrier or bare- handed carrying is better is

This is one of the questions that many parents have.



However, from a medical point of view,

Both play an important role in the baby's development.

We know that proper use is paramount .




[Medical benefits of using a baby carrier]



1. Promotes healthy hip joint development


According to a study by the International Hip Dysplasia Institute:


Proper use of a baby carrier

Proven to promote healthy hip development .



Key points:

- Maintaining a natural M-shaped leg pose

- Avoiding pressure on the hip joints

- Maintaining the correct position of the femoral head



Recommended baby carrier requirements :

- Baby 's knees are higher than his hips

- Provides firm support for the thighs

- The width of the crotch is the same as the distance between the baby 's knees

- Maintains the C-curve of the spine



2. Developing vestibular sense (balance)


By using a baby carrier, mothers can walk.

It can effectively stimulate your baby's vestibular sense.


This is evident in neurological studies.



- Promotes the development of the semicircular canals

- Improve spatial awareness

- Foundations for motor development



3. Reducing the physical burden on parents


By using the right baby carrier,

The risk of tendonitis and back pain caused by holding your baby for long periods of time is greatly reduced .



Orthopedic Benefits:

- Center of gravity distribution

- Reduced strain on the wrist

- Prevents overloading of the lumbar spine




[Medical benefits of bare-handed holding]



1. Promoting attachment


In developmental psychology research,

Direct skin contact releases the attachment hormone (oxytocin)

It has been shown to stimulate secretion .



The unique benefits of bare-handed hugging :

- Closer body heat sharing

- Heart rhythm synchronization

- Forming attachment through scent

- Detecting subtle changes in physical condition



2. Individualized motor development


When holding the baby with bare hands, depending on the baby 's reaction,

You can instantly adjust your posture and movement,

It has the advantage of being able to easily accommodate individual developmental needs .



- Instant adjustment to baby 's preferred angle

- Sensitive response to changes in muscle tone

- Close observation of breathing patterns



3. Promoting sensory integration


Holding your baby with bare hands provides various sensory stimulation.

can be received simultaneously,

Occupational therapy research has shown that this promotes the development of sensory integration functions .




[Strategies for different uses depending on age]



0-1 month old (neonatal period)

- Basics: Mainly bare-handed holding

- Baby carrier: Only when going out for a short time

- Reason: The importance of forming attachments and monitoring physical condition



1-3 months old

- Holding with bare hands: Putting a baby to sleep or breastfeeding at home

- Baby carrier: Use when going out or doing housework

- Ratio: 70% bare hands, 30% baby carrier



3-6 months old

- Use them in a balanced way

- Baby carrier: Mainly during daytime activities

- Bare-handed holding : Before bedtime or when feeling unwell

- Ratio: 50% bare hands, 50% baby carrier



6 months and older

- Baby carrier: Primary method of carrying the baby

- Hand-held cuddling : For special occasions or when putting your baby to sleep

- Ratio: 30% bare hands, 70% baby carrier




[Medical comparison of safety]



Choking risk

- Baby carriers: When used correctly, the risk of suffocation is extremely low

- Holding with bare hands: Be careful when parents are tired



Fall risk

- Baby carrier: When worn properly, the risk of falling is almost zero

- Bare-handed holding : Depends on the parent's physical condition and attention



Developmental impact

- Baby carrier: Long-term use has no adverse effects on development

- Holding with bare hands: Indirect effects of physical strain on parents




[Reasons why holding a koala is recommended]



The Pediatric Orthopedic Society

We strongly recommend holding koalas from the age of one month onwards .



Medical evidence :

1. The most effective prevention of hip dislocation

2. Maintaining the natural C-curve of the spine

3. Relieves symptoms of gastroesophageal reflux disease

4. Improved respiratory function

5. Visual stimulation promotes brain development



The important thing is that baby carriers and bare-handed carrying are not mutually exclusive.

The key is to use them appropriately, taking advantage of their respective characteristics .



According to the baby's developmental stage and the family's lifestyle,

Choosing the best holding method is paramount .

The scientific reasons why daddy's hugs are effective

Practical Techniques

Men's large hands, low voices, and temperature differences

Neurological effects on babies

"Sometimes, when dad holds a baby , it calms him down faster than mom."

This phenomenon is by no means a coincidence.



The physical differences between men and women

It stimulates the baby's nervous system in different ways,

It is effective in certain situations ,

This is evident from research in developmental neurology.




[The impact of men's physical characteristics on babies]



1. Stability depending on the size of your hand


On average, adult men's palms are about 20% larger than women's.

It provides a wider range of support for your baby's trunk.



Neurological Effects:

- Simultaneous stimulation of more tactile receptors

- Activation of deep sensation (proprioception)

- Calming effect due to parasympathetic nervous system dominance

- Muscle tension relief



Practical benefits:

-Safely supports the unstable body of a newborn

- Less fatigue even when holding the baby for long periods of time

- Helps your baby relax more deeply



2. The calming effect of low voice vibrations


The fundamental frequency of a male voice is 85-180Hz.

It is in a lower range than women's 165-265Hz.



The effects of low frequency sounds on babies

Psychoacoustic research has confirmed the following benefits:



-Stabilizing heart rate by stimulating the vagus nerve

- Reduction of stress hormone (cortisol)

- Promotes serotonin secretion

- Produces sleep-inducing brainwave patterns



3. Increased comfort due to temperature differences


The average body temperature of men is about 0.5°C higher than that of women.

During the period when the thermoregulatory function of newborns is immature,

It can provide a more effective temperature environment.



Physiological benefits:

- Improved blood flow through peripheral vasodilation

- Stabilization of basal metabolism

- Maintaining a comfortable temperature range

- Improved sleep quality




[Situations in which daddy's holding is particularly effective]



1. When dealing with night crying


A baby 's nighttime awakenings are often accompanied by agitation.

The deep calming effect of a daddy's embrace

It is particularly effective in calming this state of excitement.



Why it's effective:

- No expectation of breastfeeding, providing pure peace of mind

- Stronger hold for stability

- Activating the parasympathetic nervous system with a low voice



2. Dealing with colic


For unexplained crying in the evenings until around 3 months of age,

A daddy's hug can have a dramatic effect.



Mechanism of action:

- Relief of gastrointestinal spasmodic contractions

- Comfortable due to moderate pressure on the abdomen

- Internal organ massage effect caused by vibrations while walking



3. Recovery from overstimulation


Babies who are excited by various stimuli during the day

In the process of returning to a static environment,

A daddy's hug has a great effect.




[Practical techniques for dads]



1. The best holding position


"Improved football hug"

This involves holding your baby under your armpits and supporting his or her back with your forearms.

It makes the most of men's large hands and arms.



procedure:

-Hold your baby 's head in your hands

- Support your back and waist with your forearms

- Support your buttocks with your other hand

- Keeps baby 's face facing outward for better visibility



"Chest-close vertical hug"

This is a vertical hold where the baby 's chest is close to the father's chest.

This maximizes the heart rate synchronization effect.



point:

-Adjust so that baby 's ears are close to dad's heart

- Support the back of your head with one hand and your lower back with the other.

- Focus on taking slow, deep breaths



2. Effective communication techniques


Utilizing the low frequency range

Consciously speak in a tone lower than your natural voice.

By lengthening vowels such as "ah" and "uh,"

Vibration can enhance the calming effect.



Using rhythm patterns

Speech synchronized with the heartbeat rhythm (60-80 beats per minute)

Helps synchronize with your baby 's biological rhythms.



3. Optimizing walking patterns


"Figure-eight walking"

Instead of walking in a straight line, they walk in a gentle figure-eight pattern.

Multidirectional vestibular stimulation provides more effective sedation.



How it's done:

- Slow walking pace with each step being about 50cm

- Avoid sudden movements when changing direction

- Continue for 3-5 minutes and evaluate the effect




[Role sharing strategy with mom]



Division of labor by time period


By efficiently dividing roles by taking advantage of physiological characteristics,

This reduces the burden on parents and improves the comfort of the baby at the same time.



Recommended sharing pattern:

- Early morning (4-7am): Mom (linked to breastfeeding)

- Daytime (7am-5pm): Shifts depending on the situation

- Evening (5pm-9pm): Daddy (dealing with crying at dusk)

- Nighttime (9pm-4am): Mom takes charge, Dad responds in case of emergency



Division of labor by situation


- Before and after breastfeeding: Mom

- Burp: Dad (using the stability of holding the baby upright )

- When going out: Dad (physical advantage)

-Putting the baby to sleep : Sharing the work by taking advantage of the characteristics of both parties




[Continuous efforts to improve effectiveness]



The effectiveness of daddy's cuddles improves with continued practice.

Even if your baby is not used to it and cries at first,

Continuing for 1-2 weeks will ensure acceptance .



Key points:

- Start with a short time and gradually increase

-Choose a time when your baby is in a good mood

-Continually take on challenges without fear of failure

- Actively receive technical support from mom



A dad's cuddles mean more than just sharing childcare responsibilities.

In terms of healthy development of babies and improving the welfare of the whole family ,

It plays a scientifically proven role.

[Q&A Part 2] Holding and putting your baby to sleep

Advanced troubleshooting

Putting twins to sleep at the same time and preventing tendonitis

A practical guide to dad participation after a night shift

Q1: Is there an effective way to get twin babies to sleep at the same time?


A: It is technically possible to put twins to sleep at the same time .

With the right methods, it can be more efficient than single parenting.



The characteristics of sleep when raising twins include:

One baby's cry awakens the other

There is a "Chain Awakening".


We take advantage of this phenomenon and aim to stabilize both by putting them to sleep at the same time.



Practical simultaneous sleep techniques :


Twin Football Hold

Hold one baby on each side and put them to sleep at the same time.

This way you can keep both hands free,

It provides the right stimulation for each baby .



procedure:

- Nursing pillow placed around the waist

- Place babies on both sides at the same time

- Support your head with your palms and your back with your forearms

- Synchronized rocking and humming



Stepwise Separation

If one of them falls asleep first,

Gently move the sleeping baby to the futon,

There is a way to focus on the other side.



The key point is the continuity of the sound environment .

Place the sound source near the sleeping baby ,

Minimizing environmental changes is effective.




Q2: I developed tendonitis from holding my baby for long periods of time.

Please tell me how to prevent and treat it.


A: Tendonitis caused by childcare is a very common condition.

Improvement is possible with proper preventative measures and early response.



The main causes of tendonitis are:

This is caused by maintaining the same posture for a long period of time and putting excessive strain on the wrists .

Tendonitis of the thumb (De Quervain's disease) occurs particularly frequently.



Immediate prevention :


Alternating holding positions

By changing your holding position every 15-20 minutes,

This helps to avoid concentrating stress on specific muscle groups.



Recommended Posture Rotation:

-Side -holding (right arm centered)

- Vertical holding (both arms equally)

-Football hold (left arm centered)

- Rest (using a baby carrier or a futon)



Performing Wrist Exercises

Simple exercises to do in between hugs will

Improves blood flow and relieves muscle tension.



Effective exercises:

- Wrist rotation (10 times in each direction)

- Finger opening and closing exercises (10 times x 3 sets)

- Wrist flexion and extension (hold each for 10 seconds)



What to do (when symptoms appear) :


Icing therapy

If pain or swelling occurs, apply ice for 15-20 minutes.

Do this 3-4 times a day to reduce inflammation.



Utilizing supporters

By using a wrist supporter,

This allows for stabilization and reduction of stress on the affected area.

However, long-term use may lead to muscle weakness.

Once symptoms improve, gradually reduce use.




Q3: What should fathers be careful of when joining in childcare after a night shift?

Please tell me an effective method.


A: Fathers who come back from night shifts can participate in childcare .

The right approach can make a big contribution to reducing the burden on the entire family.



However, safety considerations are necessary when raising children while tired.

It's important to balance the health of the father and the safety of the baby .



How to participate safely :


Tiered Participation System

This system adjusts your participation level according to your fatigue level.



Level 1 (mild fatigue): Normal participation in childcare

-Holding , putting to sleep , breastfeeding assistance

- Support on the go


Level 2 (moderate fatigue): Seated participation

- Holding while sitting

- Breastfeeding support

- Diaper change


Level 3 (severe fatigue): Mainly observation and encouragement

- Supporting mothers in raising their children

- Talking to the baby

- Preparation of necessary items



Effective rest and childcare legislation :


Micro Rest System

This is an efficient way to take a short break while still participating in childcare.



How to do it:

- 20 minutes of childcare participation followed by 10 minutes of rest

- Ensure the safety of your baby while you rest

- Relieve fatigue through deep breathing and stretching




Q4: My baby will only accept being held by certain people.

Is there any way to improve this?


A: The preference for hugging a specific person is

This is most common between 3 and 6 months of age.



While this phenomenon is a normal part of attachment formation,

This may lead to an uneven burden of childcare.

A step-by-step improvement approach is recommended.



Scientific improvement method :


Olfactory habituation

Other family members may wear clothes that the baby is used to.

It provides an olfactory sense of relief.



Implementation steps:

- Borrow clothes from the person who usually carries the baby

- Or use the same fabric softener/soap

- Gradually get them used to your scent



Stepwise Contact Method

This method involves avoiding sudden changes and gradually increasing the contact time.



Weekly Program:

Week 1: 5 minutes of cuddling (3 times a day)

Week 2: 10 minutes of cuddling (3 times a day)

Week 3: 15 minutes of cuddling (twice a day)

Week 4: Natural acceptance of holding




Q5: My baby vomits while I'm holding him.

Please tell me how to prevent and treat it.


A: If your baby vomits while holding you ,

It is a very common phenomenon in the newborn period .



The main causes are gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD) and

Abdominal pressure when holding .

With proper precautions, symptoms can be alleviated.



Prevention :


Adjusting the timing of hugs

Holding a baby immediately after breastfeeding increases the risk of vomiting,

A 15-30 minute gap is effective.



Optimizing the holding angle

By holding the baby upright or at an angle of about 30 degrees,

Gravity is used to stabilize the stomach contents.



Solution :


By taking appropriate measures when regurgitation occurs,

This prevents the risk of aspiration and ensures the safety of your baby .



- Place the baby in a forward position and clean the mouth

- Check breathing status

- Change of clothes and cleaning

- Consider hydration (if necessary)



By mastering these advanced techniques,

It allows for effective holding and putting your baby to sleep in a variety of situations .

When is the right time to stop holding your baby?

How to transition to natural sleep habits

Scientific guidance for "independence" at each stage of development and psychological preparation for parents and children

" My baby has gotten used to being held and won't sleep in his futon at all..."

"How long should I continue putting my baby to sleep by holding him ?"



To answer these questions that many parents have,

The latest research in developmental psychology and sleep science provides a clear answer.



The expression "cuddle habit" is inappropriate.

It's actually a normal part of a baby's development.

The key is to facilitate a natural transition at the right time.




[Scientific redefinition of "baby-holding addiction"]



The phenomenon previously known as " holding habit " is

In modern developmental psychology, it is understood as a "normal expression of attachment behavior."



According to the research of Bowlby, the founder of attachment theory,

Babies who receive enough hugs

It has been shown that they are more likely to act independently in the future .



Scientific evidence:

- Promotes attachment through the release of oxytocin

- Improved stress tolerance

- Developing self-regulation skills

- Forming a foundation for exploratory behavior



Therefore, from the newborn stage until around 6 months of age,

It is said that it should be actively provided rather than restricted .




[Age-based transition to independence program]



0-3 months: Foundation formation period


During this period, we focus on "building the foundation for holding ,"

There is no need to consider the transition to independence.



Priority Initiatives:

- Instant cuddles on demand

- Learning various holding positions

- Establishing parent-child attachment

-Improve your baby 's sign reading skills



3-6 months: Preparation and transition


From this stage onwards, we will gradually begin to develop the ability to sleep independently .

However, avoid sudden changes and adopt a gradual approach.



Phased transition method :


Stage 1 (3-4 months old): Observation period

- Observe your baby 's natural sleepiness signs

- Don't put your baby in bed until he's completely asleep, put him in bed when he seems sleepy.

- If your baby starts crying, immediately pick him up


Stage 2 (4-5 months): Tolerance

- Place it on the futon and observe for 2-3 minutes.

- If the baby is crying lightly, respond by talking to him or touching him.

- If the baby starts crying violently, try holding him again


Stage 3 (5-6 months): Settling in

- Observation time extended to 5-7 minutes

- Establishment of a step-by-step intervention method (voice → touch → hug )

- Accumulation of successful experiences



6-12 months: Establishing independence


During this period, we aim to "establish true independent sleep ."

Develops the baby 's cognitive functions

This is a critical period when sleep habits can be learned.



Scientific independence promotion method :


Promoting self-soothing

This is the process by which your baby learns how to self-soothe.


Specific method:

- Do not restrict thumb sucking or hand movements

- Introducing small items that provide comfort (blankets, etc.)

- Establish a consistent bedtime routine

- Maintaining a consistent environment



Gradual Fade-Out Method

This involves gradually reducing parental involvement.


Weekly Program:

Week 1: After being put to sleep by holding him , he goes to bed in a light sleep.

Week 2: Place the child on the futon while they are sleepy and gently rub their back.

Week 3: Just talk to the dog after placing it on the futon

Week 4: Establishing full independent sleep




[Common challenges during the transition and how to address them]



Temporary sleep deterioration (extension burst)


During the transition to independence, your child may temporarily experience crying at night and reduced sleep time.

This is a normal part of the learning process.

This phenomenon is called the "elimination explosion."



Solution:

- Understanding the phenomenon and psychological preparation

- Maintaining a consistent response

- Establish a support system for the whole family

- Maintain flexibility when needed



Dealing with parental guilt and anxiety


The psychological burden on parents of their baby 's crying is a serious problem.

Proper psychological support can help ensure a successful transition process.



Psychological coping strategies:

- Deepening understanding based on scientific evidence

- Recognizing short-term challenges and long-term gains

- Sharing roles with partners

- Ensuring access to specialist consultation services




[A flexible approach that emphasizes individuality]



Not all babies develop at the same pace.

Understanding the characteristics of each baby

It's important to adopt a flexible approach .



Adjustment by temperament :


Sensitive Babies : A More Gradual and Gentle Transition

Well-Adjusted Babies : Transitioning at a Standard Pace

Active Babies : A Transition to More Physical Activity



Health adjustments :


When you are unwell or during teething season,

It may also be necessary to temporarily return to holding the baby .

It's important to remain flexible while maintaining an overall direction .




[Success metrics and long-term effects]



If the transition to independent sleep is successful,

The following long-term effects can be expected:



Immediate results:

- Extend your nighttime sleep

- Improved sleep quality for parents

- Reduces parenting stress

- Improved quality of life for the whole family



Long-term effects:

-Improve your baby 's self-regulation

- Promoting the development of independence

- Improved stress tolerance

- Forming the foundation for future sleep habits



The transition from being held to sleeping independently

It's an important milestone in your baby's healthy development .



With an appropriate approach based on scientific evidence,

Deepening the bond between parent and child,

This helps your baby develop independent sleep habits .