Newborn baby won't stop crying
Complete explanation of causes and solutions
"No matter what I do, my baby won't stop crying... Am I doing something wrong?"
To all the moms and dads who are feeling like they're about to break down due to anxiety and fatigue.
In fact, babies aged 1-2 months may cry for more than 5 hours a day.
This is a normal developmental process.
Based on extensive clinical experience and scientific research by childcare experts,
Systematically clarifying why babies cry,
Here are some solutions you can put into practice right now.
To respond to particularly urgent situations,
We will explain the steps in order, starting with "What you can do right now."
By the time you finish reading this guide,
The discovery and relief of knowing "I know why he's crying!"
You will feel that spending time with your baby is even more precious.
You can do it now! When your baby won't stop crying
Emergency Response
5 points to check in 30 seconds
Immediate measures
At this very moment when your baby is crying violently and you are in trouble,
Here are some solutions you should try first.
Don't panic, just check the steps step by step and you'll definitely find a solution.
[STEP 1: Eliminating basic discomfort (30-second check)]
1. Check the diaper
• Has your pet urinated or defecate?
• Is the diaper too tight?
Are there any areas that are digging into your skin ?
2. Check breastfeeding and milk
• It has been more than two hours since the last feeding
Does your child show any signs of wanting to drink even a small amount ?
• Does your baby try to suck on your finger when you bring it close to his mouth?
3. Check the room temperature and clothing
• Is the room temperature maintained at 20-25 degrees?
Put your hand on your back and check if you are sweating.
• Are your hands and feet too cold?
4. Check your posture
• Is the posture uncomfortable?
Check that your neck and body are not twisted.
• Is it possible that you are not burping?
5. Stimulus confirmation
• Is the room too bright?
Is there any noise or loud sounds?
• Tags and seams are not touching your skin
[STEP 2: Highly effective solution (effective in 1-3 minutes)]
A. Midwife-recommended "5S Method"
1. Swaddle
Wrap yourself tightly in a bath towel
→ Recreates the environment inside the womb
2. Side/Stomach (side/face down)
Lie on your forearm on your side or stomach
→ Reduces pressure on the stomach
3. Shush
Make a rhythmic whoosh sound
→ Mimics the sound of blood flowing inside the uterus
4. Swing (gently rock)
Gently rock it back and forth
→ Reminds you of the feeling inside the amniotic fluid
5. Suck
Offer a clean finger or pacifier to suck on
→ Calms down with sucking reflex
B. Environmental Change Method
1. Change your location
• Move to another room
Breathe outside air
• Driving in a car
2. Use of sound
• The sound of a vacuum cleaner
The sound of a hair dryer
• The sound of ventilation fans
• White Noise App
3. Temperature stimulation
• A warm bath at 38-39 degrees
• Gently warm your stomach with a warm towel
[STEP 3: If the baby still won't stop crying (safe temporary leaving method)]
If the crying continues for more than 15 minutes after trying the above:
1. Safety confirmation
• Place the child in a crib or safe place to sleep
• Ensure there are no choking or fall hazards
Check that there are no dangerous objects around
2. Short Breaks
• Take deep breaths in another room for 5-10 minutes.
Hydrate and relax
• Ask a family member to take over
3. Try again
• Respond again with a calm mind
• Try different methods
• Consult with an expert if necessary
The important thing is not to feel too much pressure to stop the crying .
The baby is crying
It's not because you're raising your children wrong.
In fact, it is a sign that the plant is growing healthily.
5 types of baby cries
Complete Guide
"Hey," "Eh," "Oh," "Hey," "Ahhh"
Scientific listening techniques
According to a theory developed by Australian researcher Priscilla Dunstan,
Babies between 0 and 3 months old use five different types of cries, regardless of their nationality.
When you become able to distinguish between these two,
It has been proven to significantly reduce parenting anxiety.
[5 types of crying and how to deal with them]
1. "Neh" = I'm hungry
●Sound characteristics
• The tongue sound "nee, nee"
Starts small and grows stronger over time
• You can also see them chewing their mouths.
Scientific evidence
The natural sound produced by tongue movement when drinking breast milk or formula
Solution
• Immediately give breast milk
Give them a small amount if they want it
• Place your finger close to the mouth and check if it sticks.
2. "Eh" = I need to burp
●Sound characteristics
• A short "huh, huh" sound
Most commonly heard within 15-30 minutes after feeding
• Sometimes the face is red and strained
Scientific evidence
The natural sound of expelling air from the stomach
Solution
• Hold the baby upright and pat its back
Place it on your shoulders and rub gently
• Have them sit on your thighs and lean forward.
3. "Owh" = sleepy/tired
●Sound characteristics
• A yawn-like sound like "ooh, aah"
• It starts out weak, but gets stronger if you don't sleep.
• Rubbing eyes or thrashing arms and legs
Scientific evidence
The natural sound that comes from the shape of your mouth when yawning
Solution
• Create a dimly lit and quiet environment
• Swaddle and comfort
• Gently hold and rock the baby
4. "Heh" = Uncomfortable
●Sound characteristics
• A breathy "heh, heh" sound
Crying and wiggling
• Flapping your arms and legs
Scientific evidence
A natural reaction to expressing physical discomfort
Solution
• Check and change diapers
• Room temperature and humidity adjustment
• Check the tightness of your clothing
• Check what touches your skin
5. "Eairh" = Stomach discomfort/gas
●Sound characteristics
• A low "ah, ah" sound
Bring your knees to your chest or arch your back
• Face turns red and strains
Scientific evidence
Characteristic sounds used to describe digestive discomfort
Solution
• Gently massage your stomach in a clockwise direction.
Exercise by bringing your knees closer to your chest
• Hold the baby face down and apply gentle pressure to the stomach
• Consider cotton swab enema if constipated
[Tips and things to note when listening]
● Key points to learn
• Don't worry if you don't see the difference at first
• If you listen to it every day, you will be able to naturally distinguish it within 3-4 months.
• Observe the behaviors that accompany the crying.
Important points to note
Even if you can't hear it,
It doesn't affect your love for your baby or the quality of your care.
The important thing is to be there for the crying baby,
The key is to show your concern by asking, "What's wrong?"
80% of experienced mothers answered that they can "distinguish to some extent",
It doesn't have to be perfect.
Dusk crying vs. night crying vs. normal crying
[Complete method of distinguishing]
Understand the differences in time periods, symptoms, and treatment methods
Choosing the right care
There are three distinct patterns of crying in babies:
By understanding the characteristics of each
You will be able to choose effective solutions.
1. Characteristics of Colic
●Time of occurrence
• 2 weeks to 6 months old
Peak age: 2-3 months
• Approximately 20% of babies (1 in 5) experience this condition
Symptom characteristics
• Crying intensely at certain times (usually between 5pm and 9pm in the evening)
• At least 3 hours a day, at least 3 days a week, for at least 3 weeks
• Continuous, intense crying for no apparent reason
• Often, no matter what you do, the child will not stop crying.
●Medical definition
"Rule of 3": 3 hours or more, 3 days or more, 3 weeks or more
●Cause (estimated)
• Accumulation of fatigue throughout the day
• Autonomic nervous system switching failure
• Immature digestive system
• Concerns about environmental changes
Solution
• Swaddling
• Change your environment (walk or drive)
• Use white noise
• A warm bath
• Belly massage
2. Characteristics of Night Crying
●Time of occurrence
Peak age is 6 months to 18 months
• For babies as early as 3-4 months old
• May continue until age 2-3
Symptom characteristics
Sudden waking and crying during the night (10pm-6am)
• Falls asleep once, then wakes up crying
• Breastfeeding and diaper changes are not the solution
• They often calm down when held.
●Cause
Too much stimulation during the day
• Underdeveloped sleep rhythm
• Excitation during brain development
• Changes in living environment
Solution
• Regular lifestyle
• Adjust the amount of stimulation during the day
• Establish a bedtime routine
• Creating a safe environment
3. Characteristics of normal crying (demand crying)
●Time of occurrence
Immediately after birth - always
• Occurs at any age
Symptom characteristics
• There is a clear cause (hunger, discomfort, drowsiness, etc.)
• Removing the cause will stop the crying.
• There are often warning signs before crying occurs.
• 5 different cries to express needs
●Cause
• Hunger
• Dirty diapers
Hot/cold
• I feel sleepy
• Poor health
• I want attention
Solution
• Identifying and eliminating the cause
• Utilizes 5 types of crying sounds
• Basic care (feeding, diapers, room temperature control)
[The key point to distinguish them]
●Discrimination by time of day
| Type of crying | Main occurrence time | Duration |
|------------|------------|----------|
| Twilight Cry | 5-9 PM | 1-3 hours |
| Night crying | 10pm-6am | 30 minutes-2 hours |
| Normal crying | Regardless of time | Resolve by eliminating the cause |
● Judgment based on treatment effectiveness
Twilight crying : Nothing works
• Night crying : Improved by holding the baby and changing the environment
• Normal crying : Immediate relief by removing the cause
●Distinguishing between growth stages
• 0-3 months : Twilight crying + normal crying
• 3-6 months : Night crying begins + normal crying
• After 6 months : Mainly night crying + normal crying
Any type of crying
It is important to understand that this is a normal part of a baby's development .
Knowing the appropriate response method
This minimizes stress for both parents and children.
Reasons for crying by age
Effective countermeasures
Suitable for newborn to 6-month-old developmental stages
Changes in how to deal with crying
The reasons why babies cry change dramatically as they get older .
Understanding the stages of growth
This will allow for a more effective response.
[Newborn period (0-1 month)]
The main reasons for crying
• Basic physiological needs (90%)
- Hunger (most common)
- Diaper stains
- Hot/Cold
- I'm sleepy
• Responding to environmental changes (10%)
- Brightness change
- Sound stimulation
- Changes in how you hold your baby
●Characteristics of this period
• Sleep 15-20 hours a day
• Feeding cycle every 2-3 hours
• Stomach the size of a cherry
• There is no difference between day and night
● Effective countermeasures
• Thorough basic care (feeding, diapers, room temperature)
• Use of the 5S method (swaddling, sideways positioning, sound, rocking, and sucking)
• Frequent short feedings
• Create a quiet and dimly lit environment
[1-3 months old]
The main reasons for crying
Colic (60%)
- Accumulation of fatigue throughout the day
- Immaturity of the digestive system
- Development of the nervous system
• Basic needs (30%)
• The emergence of social needs (10%)
- I want attention
- boredom
●Characteristics of this period
Peak crying period
• Crying 2-5 hours a day is normal
• They start to gradually distinguish between day and night.
• Your neck will become stronger
● Effective countermeasures
• Implementation of special measures for crying at dusk
• Change of environment (walking or driving)
• Use white noise
• Family shift support
• Stress management for moms and dads
[3-6 months old]
The main reasons for crying
• Onset of night crying (50%)
- Processing stimuli during the day
- Development of sleep rhythms
- Rapid brain growth
• Increased social desire (30%)
- Desire for communication
- I want you to play
- Pay attention
• Basic needs (20%)
●Characteristics of this period
• The distinction between day and night becomes clearer
Increased continuous sleep time at night
• They start to respond to human faces and voices.
• The baby's head becomes strong and they start to roll over.
● Effective countermeasures
• Establishing a regular routine
• Moderate stimulation and activity during the day
• Creating a quiet environment at night
• Start your bedtime routine
• Increased social engagement
[6 months and older]
The main reasons for crying
Peak of night crying (40%)
• Emergence of separation anxiety (25%)
Teething discomfort (20%)
• Clarifying intentions (15%)
●Characteristics of this period
• The beginning of shyness
• Starting solid foods
• Be able to sit up
• More complex emotional expressions
● Effective countermeasures
• Full implementation of night crying prevention measures
• Secure attachment formation
• Teething prevention measures (teething rings, etc.)
• Adjusting daily rhythm with baby food
[Key points for each age group]
●Newborn period : thorough basic care
●1-3 months: Tackling crying at night + patience
●3-6 months: Establishing a daily routine
● After 6 months: Measures against night crying + emotional support
At any time,
It is important to understand this as a "developmental task unique to this period."
By taking appropriate measures,
Your baby and your family will get through this.
Dangerous crying
Criteria for deciding whether to visit a hospital
Normal crying and crying due to illness
Points to look out for
Crying is a normal part of most babies' development,
In rare cases, it may be caused by an illness or disorder.
By knowing the appropriate criteria,
You will be able to raise your child with peace of mind.
[Danger signs requiring immediate emergency medical attention]
● Urgency level: ★★★ (119 emergency call level)
1. Breathing problems
Breathing stops or is very shallow
• Respiratory rate of more than 60 breaths per minute
• Breathing heavily
• Blue lips or fingertips (cyanosis)
2. Decreased level of consciousness
Feeling listless and unresponsive
• Unusually quieter than usual
• No response to stimuli
• Eyes are unable to focus
3. High fever (above 38.5°C) + the following symptoms
Convulsions (shaking limbs)
• Repeated vomiting
• Stiff neck (suspected meningitis)
4. Abnormal crying
Continues crying with a high-pitched shriek
• An abnormally weak cry
• No crying at all (in newborns)
[Signs that require medical attention within 24 hours]
● Urgency: ★★ (visit during business hours the next day)
1. Fever-related
A fever of 37.5°C or higher in babies under 3 months of age
• Fever does not go down even with antipyretics
• Fever + significant decrease in milk production
2. Gastrointestinal symptoms
Vomiting like a fountain
• Blood in the stool or abnormal stool color
• No bowel movement for more than 24 hours
• Abnormally bloated stomach
3. Breastfeeding and fluid intake
• Cannot breastfeed for more than 8 hours
• Not being able to urinate for more than 6 hours
• An abnormally dry mouth
4. Skin and Appearance
A rash appears all over the body
• Pale complexion (pale/yellow)
• Unusual swelling or lumps
[Normal crying that can be monitored over time]
●Reliability level: ★ (normal developmental process)
1. Crying with a temporal pattern
Twilight crying at a set time
• Crying due to hunger before feeding
• Crying when sleepy
2. Crying can be improved with treatment
• Calming with hugs
• Breastfeeding stops crying
• Changing diapers improves mood
3. Good overall condition
• She looks good even when she's crying
• Breastfeeding is possible
• I get enough sleep
• Weight gain is steady
[Preparation and information to provide when visiting the clinic]
● Advance preparation
• Maternal and Child Health Handbook, Insurance Card, Medical Card
• Temperature measurement record
• Feeding and excretion records
• Video of the symptoms (if possible)
What to tell your doctor
When did it start and what kind of crying did it cause?
• Times and patterns of crying
• The solutions you tried and their effectiveness
• Feeding, excretion and sleep status
• Something different from usual
[Consultation desk when you are unsure of what to do]
●Available 24 hours a day
• #8000 (pediatric emergency telephone consultation)
• Emergency medical information centers in each prefecture
●Available on weekdays
• Pediatrician
• Community health centers
• Midwife consultation service
[Important mindset]
1. Criteria for "wait and see"
• Good general condition
• I am able to live my life as usual.
• I am hydrated.
2. Criteria for "immediate medical examination"
• Clearly different from usual
• Parents have an intuition that something is wrong
• Any of the above warning signs
Most importantly,
"Trust your parental intuition."
If you feel something is different than usual,
Don't hesitate to consult a professional.
Early detection and early response
It's the best way to keep your baby healthy.
[Practical Edition] 12 Techniques to Stop Crying
Midwife-recommended methods of holding, sound, environment, and using baby products
Expert-proven and effective ways to stop crying
How to use the latest countermeasures products wisely
"I've tried everything but the crying won't stop..."
In such cases, I would like you to try
Here are 12 methods that have been proven effective for many babies .
The important thing to remember is that different methods work for different babies .
Don't give up and try different methods.
[Basic Techniques (1-6)]
1. The perfect way to hold a baby: the 5S technique
●The correct way to swaddle a baby
• Place bath towels in a diamond shape
Fold the top corner over and place it under your baby's neck
• Straighten your right arm and wrap it around the right corner.
• Fold the corners of the feet up
• Straighten your left arm and wrap it around the left corner.
Not too tight, not too loose, and allows for some hand movement
●Side/Stomach (side/face down)
• Place the baby face down on your forearm
Always turn your face to the side to ensure breathing
• Gently compress the abdomen to provide a sense of security
●Shush (whoosh sound)
• Make a hissing sound in your baby's ear
At the same volume as crying
• Reproduces the sound of blood flow in the uterus
●Swing (gentle rocking)
• Shake it back and forth
• Rhythm of 2-3 beats per second
• Support your head for safety
●Suck
• Use clean fingers or a pacifier
Naturally calms through the sucking reflex
2. The Magical "Colic Hold"
This is a particularly effective way to hold a baby when they are colic (crying during the night).
●Implementation method
• Place your baby face down on your forearm
Support your head with your palms
• Gently rub your back with your other hand.
• Gently bob up and down on your thighs
●Why does it work?
Compression of the abdomen promotes the expulsion of gas ,
This is because it reduces digestive discomfort.
3. Temperature control techniques
●Lukewarm water bathing method
• Warm water (38-39°C)
• Take a leisurely bath for 5-10 minutes
• Talk gently to them in the bathtub
●Partial warming method
• Gently warm your stomach with a warm towel
Massage your stomach in a clockwise direction with your palms
• Keep your feet warm
4. Environmental Change Method
●Change location
• Move to another room
• Let them breathe fresh air (balcony/entrance)
• Driving in a car
Adjust the stimulation
• Dim the lights
• Turn off the TV and music
• Create a quiet environment
5. Sound Therapy
●Effective types of sounds
• The sound of a vacuum cleaner
The sound of a hair dryer
• The sound of ventilation fans
• Car engine sounds
• The sound of waves
• Rain sounds
●Tips for use
Maintain a consistent rhythm
• The volume is slightly louder than crying.
• Continue for 10-15 minutes
6. Massage Techniques
Abdominal massage
• Gently rub clockwise
• Like drawing the character "no"
• Use the whole palm of your hand to warm it up
●Gas release exercise
• Knee-to-chest exercise
• Bicycle-like movements
• Approximately 5 to 10 times at a time
[Advanced Techniques (7-12)]
7. How to use the latest baby tech
●White noise app
• "Baby Sleep," "White Noise," etc.
• Choose one with a timer function
• Play through speakers instead of earphones
●Cry detection app
• "Cry Translator" "Baby Monitor"
• Use it as a reference
• Don't strive for perfection
8. Fragrance and Touch Care
Aromatherapy
• Use diluted lavender oil
• Do not apply directly to the skin, but scent the room.
• Allergy check before use
●Skin touch
• Skin-to-skin contact
Hold directly on your chest
• Heart rate synchronization effect
9. Timing Therapy
Preventive approach
• Know the time period before crying begins
• Start taking measures in advance
• Adjusting your daily routine
●Rest timing
• 15-minute rule: If you try it for 15 minutes and it doesn't work, take a break.
Place it in a safe place and leave it for a short time
• Calm down and try again
10. Family collaboration techniques
●Division of roles
• When mommy gets tired, she passes the baton to daddy.
• They may calm down when held by a different person
• Cooperation from grandparents
●Double care
• Two people can respond at the same time
• One person is in charge of holding the baby and the other is in charge of the sound.
• Collaboration doubles the effect
11. How to use goods
●Effective items
• Balance ball (swing while holding)
Baby carrier (comfortable even for long periods of time)
• Pacifier (satisfies sucking needs)
• Bouncer (regular rhythm)
●Handmade items
• Fill a plastic bottle with rice and use it as maracas
• Repeat playback of recorded heartbeats
• Warmed towels (be careful to use the right temperature)
12. Advanced Combination Techniques
●Triple Combo
1. Swaddling + Side-holding + Hissing
2. Massage + Hot Bath + White Noise
3. Environmental change + sound therapy + skin touch
●Time series approach
• Try different methods every 5 minutes
• Record what worked
• Start the same way next time
[Important Points]
●Safety first
• Do not shake violently
Maintain a position that does not restrict breathing
• If you get tired, take a break and don't push yourself.
●Understanding individuality
Effective methods vary depending on the baby
• Don't be afraid to try and fail.
• Find patterns of success
Long-term perspective
• Don't expect immediate results
A continuous approach is important
• As we grow, our methods change.
By combining these techniques,
You're sure to find a method that works for your baby.
Without haste, with love,
Try different methods.
How to read your baby's crying signs
The science of facial expressions, gestures, and timing
Catch the signs before they cry
Proactive observation techniques to improve your observation skills
"If someone told me before my baby started crying that he was about to cry..."
In fact, babies always send signs before they cry.
Once you learn to read this sign,
This allows you to deal with the situation before the baby starts crying, making parenting much easier.
[Why can we read the signs?]
Babies have certain patterns of behavior.
Physiological basis
• Discomfort increases gradually
The autonomic nervous system reacts before crying
• Physical changes are reflected in behavior
• Changes in hormone secretion affect
●Characteristics of behavioral patterns
• Show the same response to the same stimulus
• There are individual differences, but the basic pattern is the same.
• The signs become clearer as the months progress.
Signs of hunger
Early signs (30 minutes before crying)
• Mutching
• Sticking out and retracting the tongue
• Trying to bring hands to mouth
• Eyes wide open
Mid-stage signs (10 minutes before crying)
Head shaking from side to side (exploratory behavior)
• Make and open your hands
• Make a small "nee, nee" sound
• Begins to fidget
●Late sign (just before crying)
• The "nee" sound gets louder
• Open your mouth wide
• Flapping your arms and legs
• Your face starts to turn red
Solution
If you notice the early signs,
Getting ready to breastfeed right away will help prevent crying.
[Signs of sleepiness]
Early signs (starting to feel sleepy)
Rubbing your eyes
• Yawning
• Blinking becomes slower
• Less movement
Mid-term signs (increased drowsiness)
Touching ears or hair
• Make "ooh, aah" sounds
• Loss of focus
• Warm hands and feet
Late signs (irritability due to insomnia)
Arching your back
• Flapping your arms and legs vigorously
• The "ooh" sound gets stronger
• Grimacing
Solution
Create a dim and quiet environment in the middle sign,
Wrap your baby in a swaddling cloth.
Signs of discomfort
Diaper stains
Grimacing
• Fidgeting with your feet
• Make a "heh" sound
• Trying to lift your buttocks
When it's hot
Hot hands and feet
• Sweating
• Trying to kick off clothes
• Heavy breathing
When it's cold
Cold hands and feet
• Trying to curl up
• Trembling movements
• Pale skin
Solution
With early detection,
You can resolve the issue before it becomes too painful .
Signs of stomach discomfort
When gas accumulates
Bring your knees closer to your chest
• Makes your stomach hard
• A low "ahh" sound
• Face turns red and strains
When you are constipated
• Growling voice
• Belly feels hard when touched
• More time in a bad mood
• Loss of appetite
Solution
Belly massage and
Do some gas-releasing exercises early on .
[Signs that you want attention]
* The emergence of social needs (after 3 months of age)
Follow mom and dad with your eyes
• Speak out loud to get attention
• They flap their arms and legs to show off.
• Smiling and then quickly becoming serious
Solution
This sign is evidence of healthy development .
Let's communicate proactively.
[Changes in signs by moon phase]
●Newborn period (0-1 month)
• The signs are weak and easy to miss
• Primarily physiological signals only
• The time before crying is very short
1 to 3 months old
• The signs become clearer
• The pre-crying warning time is increased
• The pattern becomes stable.
3 to 6 months old
• They start to give more complex signals
• Adds a signal of social desirability
• A unique signature appears
[Tips to improve your observation skills]
● Keep a record
• Record the relationship between time and sign
• Make a note of the effective measures
• Leads to the discovery of patterns
●Intensive observation time
• 10 minutes a day of careful observation
• Put your phone down and just look at your baby
• Discovering new signs
● Information sharing among family members
• Observing your dad and grandma is also important
• Discover signs from different perspectives
• A more comprehensive understanding
[Practical Observation Checklist]
Daily Checkpoints:
□ Changes in eye movements and facial expressions
□ Movement of limbs and posture
□ Breathing rhythm and depth
□ Skin color and temperature
□ Sounds and voices you make
□ Areas to touch
□ Direction of gaze and concentration
This observation skill cannot be acquired overnight ,
By being a little more conscious every day,
Always communicate with your baby
I promise you it will be a huge improvement.
"Ah, this is a sign that he's sleepy."
"This expression may be a sign that he's hungry."
When such a discovery becomes possible,
You will experience the great joy of raising a child.
Dangerous crying
Criteria for deciding whether to visit a hospital
How to distinguish between normal crying and crying due to illness
Emergency Visit Checklist
"I feel like your crying is different from usual... is this okay?"
A mother's intuition is also considered very important in medicine .
What are the criteria for judgment when you feel something is "not quite right"?
I will give you specific details.
The scientific basis for mother's intuition
In fact, the mother's feeling that something was "strange"
There is a 90% or higher probability of detecting some kind of abnormality.
●Why is a mother's intuition so accurate?
• Being together 24 hours a day allows you to detect subtle changes
• Hormones improve your observation skills
• Ability to process information at an unconscious level
• Deep connection with your baby
The doctor also said, "If your mother feels something is wrong,
There's always something," they say together.
[Danger signs that require immediate emergency emergency call]
● Most important: Life-threatening symptoms
1. Breathing problems
Breathing has stopped
• Shallow breathing more than 60 times per minute
• Breathing heavily
• Your chest sinks with each breath
Blue or purple lips or nails (cyanosis)
2. Abnormal level of consciousness
Limp and unresponsive
• Doesn't open his eyes when you call his name
• Not crying even when stimulated in a way that would normally make them cry
Eyes not focusing
• Unusually quiet and motionless
3. Seizures
Shaking limbs
• Rolling the whites of their eyes
• Body stiffness
• Body movements while unconscious
4. Abnormally high fever
- Children under 3 months of age with a temperature of 38°C or higher
• Temperature above 39.5°C after 3 months of age
• Fever reducers don't work
• Cold hands and feet despite having a fever
[Signs that require medical attention within 24 hours]
Symptoms that are urgent but not life-threatening
1. Unusual crying patterns
Continues crying with a high-pitched shriek
• Crying is weaker than usual
• Intermittent, distressed crying
Writhing in pain and crying
2. Gastrointestinal symptoms
Forceful vomiting like a fountain
• Bloody vomit or stool
• No poop for more than 24 hours
Your stomach is bloated
• Your stomach hurts when you touch it.
3. Hydration issues
• Not being able to urinate for more than 8 hours
• Cannot tolerate breast milk or formula at all
• A very dry mouth
No tears even when crying
4. Skin and appearance changes
A sudden rash appeared all over the body
• Abnormally pale or yellow complexion
• Swelling in unusual places
Sudden change in head shape
[Normal signs that require follow-up observation]
●A situation where you can watch over them with peace of mind
1. Crying with a temporal pattern
Crying at a fixed time every day
• Regular crying before feeding
• Short periods of crying before and after bath time
Crying when sleepy
2. Crying can be improved with treatment
Crying stops when you hold the baby
• Breastfeeding improves mood
• Calming down with a diaper change
Changing the environment stops the crying
3. Good overall condition
• She looks good even when she's crying
• Breastfeeding is going well
• Urine and feces are normal
• Steady weight gain
• He's in a good mood when he stops crying.
[Preparation and information to provide when visiting the clinic]
What to bring
• Maternal and Child Health Handbook
• Health insurance card
• Medical certificate (medical certificate for infants and children)
Medications you normally take (if any)
• Temperature recording
• Feeding and excretion records
What to tell your doctor
1. Details of symptoms
• From when (specific date and time)
• What type of crying is it?
• Times and patterns of crying
• Differences from usual
2. Solutions I tried
What did you try and what was the reaction?
• What was effective and what wasn't?
• Details of any medications used
3. General condition
Appetite (amount and frequency of feeding)
• Sleep status
• Frequency and condition of bowel movements
Do you have good times ?
4. Family situation
Are there any family members with the same symptoms ?
• Recent changes in your life
• Immunization history
[Where to consult when you are unsure of what to do]
●24-hour consultation desk
1. #8000 (Pediatric emergency telephone consultation)
• National unified number
• Nurses and doctors will be on hand
• Advise on the need for medical treatment
• Free to use
2. Prefectural Emergency Medical Information Centers
Emergency hospital information
• Hospital referrals based on symptoms
• Transportation advice
●Consultation desk available on weekdays
1. Your pediatrician
• Check available times for phone consultations
• Benefits of knowing what things are normally like
• Ongoing follow-up
2. Community Health Centers
• Consultation by a public health nurse
• General parenting advice
• Local medical institution information
[The most important mindset]
● Trust your "mother's intuition"
Even if medical tests show no abnormalities,
If you feel something is "off,"
That's an important sign.
There's no need to be shy or embarrassed.
"Just in case" or "Because I'm worried"
The reason for visiting the hospital is
Doctors are also welcome.
●The importance of records
To objectively convey that something is "different from usual,"
Regular records are helpful.
• Feeding times and amounts
Times and patterns of crying
• Frequency and condition of bowel movements
• Sleep time
Good mood time
eventually,
"When the mother feels worried, that's the time to see a doctor."
Think of it this way.
Protecting the life and health of your baby
That's a mother's loving observation.
[Q&A] Common problems with crying that won't stop
solution
Crying for more than 30 minutes, crying at the same time every day,
What to do when nothing you do works
Frequently asked questions from actual childcare settings,
We provide practical solutions based on our expert knowledge in a Q&A format.
Knowing that there are many moms and dads who have the same problem,
I hope this will give you some peace of mind.
[Q&A about crying duration]
Q1: Is it abnormal for a baby to cry for more than 30 minutes?
A: It is completely normal from the newborn stage to 3 months of age.
According to a survey by the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare,
Approximately 20% of babies between 1 and 2 months old cry for more than 5 hours a day .
●Reasons for crying for more than 30 minutes
• Typical symptoms of colic
• Excited state due to underdeveloped nervous system
• Accumulation of fatigue throughout the day
• Autonomic nervous system switching failure
Solution
• Try a different method every 15 minutes
• Stay safe and take a break
• Take turns with family members
• Keep records and understand patterns
Q2: Is it okay if my baby cries for more than an hour?
A: There is no need to worry as long as the following conditions are met:
●Reassuring signs
• Breastfeeding is going well
• Urinating and defecating normally
• He's in a good mood when he stops crying.
• Weight gain is steady
Crying at certain times
Signs that require attention
Abnormally high-pitched or weak crying
• Refuses to breastfeed
• Have a fever
• Appears to be significantly different from usual
[Q&A regarding time slots]
Q3: My child starts crying every day around 5pm. What is this?
A: It's a typical case of colic.
This is a medically recognized phenomenon.
Approximately 20% of babies experience this .
Characteristics of Twilight Cry
• Concentrated in the evening between 5pm and 9pm
• Intense crying for no apparent reason
• Peaks at 2-3 months of age
Improves spontaneously by 5-6 months of age
Effective ways to deal with this
• Start taking measures before the baby starts crying (around 4pm)
Change your environment by taking a walk or going for a drive
• Use white noise
• Divide roles among family members
Q4: My baby cries every night between 2 and 4 in the morning. Is this night crying?
A: It depends on the age of the baby.
For newborns to 3 months old
Normal crying due to feeding intervals
• Not being able to distinguish between day and night
• It's not night crying, it's physiological needs
For babies aged 4 months or older
• Possibility of serious night crying
• The development of sleep rhythms
• Irritation from daytime stimuli
●Differences in coping methods
Newborn period: Prioritize breastfeeding and checking diapers
After 4 months: Adjusting your daily routine is important
[Q&A regarding solutions]
Q5: No matter what I do, my baby won't stop crying. I've reached my limit.
A: First of all, you're doing a great job.
"No matter what I do, he won't stop crying"
It's not because of your poor parenting.
Immediate action to be taken
1. Safety + Short Breaks
• Place your baby in a safe place
• Take deep breaths in another room for 5-10 minutes
• Drink cold water
• Calming
2. Consult a specialist institution
• #8000 (pediatric emergency telephone consultation)
• Call your pediatrician
• Community health centers
3. Support from family and friends
• Be honest and ask for help
• Request temporary custody
• Just having someone listen to you is effective
Q6: My baby stops crying when I hold him, but starts crying again when I put him down.
A: It's a very common phenomenon called the "back switch."
Why does it happen?
• Stimulation by temperature difference
• Loss of the security of being held
• Moro reflex startle
Discomfort due to changes in posture
● Effective measures
1. Step-by-step placement
• Place your bottom first
• Lastly, slowly
• Keep your hands under your head
• It takes about 3 minutes to completely set.
2. Prepare your environment
Keep your futon warm to body temperature
• Leave the baby wrapped in a swaddling cloth
• Keep your palms on your chest.
[Frequency Q&A]
Q7: My baby cries most of the day. Is this abnormal?
A: Check the following and make a comprehensive decision.
●When there is a high possibility that the result is within the normal range
During the first 1 to 3 months of life
• Feeding and excretion are normal
• Weight gain is steady
There are moments when you stop crying
• Holding him calms him down a little.
If you need expert consultation
• Crying doesn't stop for more than 24 hours
• Refuses to breastfeed
• Not gaining weight
Have a fever
• Something is clearly different from usual
Q8: I'm worried about the volume of my baby's crying. Will it be a nuisance to my neighbors?
A: A baby's crying is a vital behavior.
●Legal and social understanding
• Babies' cries are within the scope of the obligation to tolerate
• Generally, it does not cause trouble for neighbors.
• An era in which the whole of society supports child-rearing
●How to be considerate to neighbors
• Greet them in advance by saying, "Your baby has been born."
• Soundproofing measures (thick curtains, etc.)
• Going out when your child won't stop crying
• An attitude of "understanding" rather than "apology"
[Q&A regarding effects]
Q9: I can't win even when using the crying app. Is there no point?
A: Think of the app as a reference only.
●App limitations
• Cannot fully reflect individual differences
• Cannot judge multiple factors
• Easily affected by environmental noise
●More effective methods
• Understanding patterns through daily observation
• Learn 5 different cries
• Recording of time period and factors
• Information sharing among family members
Q10: How long will this situation continue?
A: The end will definitely come. There will be a clear target.
● Estimated time for improvement
Twilight Cry:
• Peaks at 2-3 months of age
Resolves spontaneously by 5-6 months of age
Crying at night:
• Peak age is 6 months to 18 months
• Significant improvement by age 2
General crying:
Significant decrease at 3-4 months of age
• Improved by being able to distinguish between day and night
• Resolved by improving communication skills
To maintain hope
The difficulties we face now will not last forever .
Many senior mothers
"I miss those difficult times."
Looking back,
This experience will definitely
It makes me a stronger and kinder mother.
Don't carry it alone,
Actively utilizing the support of those around me,
Let's get through this precious time.
Stress management for moms and dads
Family support system
How to keep your mind when you feel at your limit
List of consultation desks
For moms and dads who deal with their babies' cries every day,
Taking care of your own mental health is just as important as taking care of your children .
Maintaining a healthy state of mind
It also provides a better environment for your baby.
[Don't overlook the warning signs of stress]
Physical signs
Chronic sleep deprivation (less than 3 hours per day)
• Extreme loss of appetite or overeating
• Worsening headaches and stiff shoulders
• You may catch a cold more easily
Mental signs
• I can't stop getting annoyed by my baby's crying
• Blaming yourself for not being “suited to parenting”
• Increased anxiety about the future
• Poor concentration
Behavioral Signs
Avoid contact with family and friends
• Extreme reluctance to go out
• You want to run away from your baby.
• Tears won't stop
[Fast-acting stress reduction methods]
●Emergency measures that can be done in 5 minutes
1. 4-7-8 breathing method
• Take a 4-second breath
• Hold your breath for 7 seconds
• Exhale slowly for 8 seconds
• Repeat three times
2. Safe temporary evacuation
• Place your baby in a safe place
Take a 5-10 minute break in another room
• Drink cold water
• Take a deep breath
3. Self-talk
• "This is temporary."
• "The baby is growing well."
• "I'm trying my best."
• “It doesn’t have to be perfect.”
[Building a cooperative system between families and couples]
●Specific examples of role sharing
Weekday division of labor
• Nighttime service: 2-3 hour shifts
• Morning preparation: one person for the baby, one for breakfast
• Evening twilight crying: Replace immediately after returning home
Sharing holidays
Complete shifts between morning and afternoon
• Ensure that each person has 2-3 hours of free time.
• Housework is shared equally.
●Communication tips
• Say "thank you" every day
• Don't let frustrations build up, discuss them on the same day.
• Share each other's fatigue levels
• Don't strive for perfection
[Active use of external support]
Public services
1. Postnatal care services
Postpartum helper dispatch
• Postpartum day care services
• Postpartum short stay
• Cost: 1,000-3,000 yen per session depending on the municipality
2. Childcare Support Center
• Childcare consultation (free)
• Temporary childcare services
• Opportunities to socialize with fellow moms
• Lectures by experts
3. Housekeeping support services
• Housekeeping helpers commissioned by local governments
• Meal delivery services
• Cleaning services
Private services
1. Babysitter
• Short-term use of 2-3 hours
• Time for shopping, going to the hairdresser, and getting some sleep
• Cost: 2,000-3,000 yen per hour
2. Postpartum doula
Postpartum specialist support
• Housework, childcare, and mental care
• Specialized knowledge and skills
[24-hour consultation desk]
●In emergencies
• #8000 (pediatric emergency telephone consultation)
• Lifeline: 0570-783-556
• Childcare hotlines in each prefecture
●Available on weekdays
• Community Health Centers
• Midwife consultation for obstetrics and gynecology
• Childcare support department of local government
●Online consultation
• Online midwife consultation service
• Parenting app expert consultation function
• Childcare support social networking community
[How to take care of yourself]
●Important mindset
1. Break away from perfectionism
• “80% parenting is good enough.”
• Don't compare yourself to others
• Failure is a learning opportunity
2. Acknowledge your feelings
• Be honest about being tired
• It's natural to get frustrated
• Asking for help is not a weakness
3. Take a long-term view
• "This difficulty is temporary."
• Significant improvement after 6 months of age
• Your current experience will definitely be put to good use.
[Emergency Action Plan]
If you feel like you're at your limit:
1. Immediate execution
• Place your baby in a safe place
• Contact family, friends and support services
• Make your safety your number one priority
2. Within 24 hours
• Consult with a specialist (midwife or public health nurse)
• Consult your doctor
• Consult a psychosomatic doctor if necessary
Raising a child is not something you have to handle alone.
The courage to ask for help is
For babies and families
It will be the best choice.
👉Click here if you want to review what to do in an emergency
💡Click here if you want to master identifying your baby's cry
For moms and dads who are worried about their baby's crying
Raising a child is not something you have to handle alone.
"Appropriate knowledge and understanding"
For babies and families
It creates the best possible childcare environment.
Through a scientific approach based on specialized knowledge,
I will tell you with all my heart.
No matter how difficult the night,
Morning will surely come.
And this experience will surely
It will make you a stronger and kinder parent.
Stress management for moms and dads
How to keep your mind
How to avoid getting annoyed by your baby's crying
Emergency response when you feel you have reached your limit
"When I hear a baby crying, my heart aches and tears come to my eyes..."
"Does this mean I'm a bad mother because I get so frustrated?"
For those of you who feel that way.
These feelings are completely normal and many moms experience them.
In fact, the incidence of postpartum depression is estimated to be around 10-15%.
Stress caused by a baby's crying is a medically recognized phenomenon .
Why does a baby's cry cause so much stress?
Biological mechanisms
A baby's cry directly engages the most primitive part of the human brain.
This is the process of evolution,
To help parents recognize danger to their baby and act quickly
It's a programmed, instinctive response .
Rapid release of stress hormones (cortisol)
• Excessive activation of the sympathetic nervous system
• Impaired judgment due to lack of sleep
Postpartum hormonal changes
In other words, crying is stressful for
It's proof that you're a loving mother .
[How to deal with stress at each stage]
[Stage 1: Mild irritation (prevention stage)]
Physical approach
Take five deep breaths
• Consciously relax your shoulders
• Drink hot drinks slowly
• Do some gentle stretching
Cognitive approach
• Tell yourself, "My baby is growing well."
• Think, "This crying is temporary."
• Look at the clock and set a goal: "I'll take a break in 10 minutes."
Stage 2: Moderate stress (coping stage)
Measures that should be taken immediately
1. Safe temporary evacuation
• Place your baby in a safe place such as a crib
Move to another room and rest for 5-10 minutes
• Close the door and physically distance yourself from the crying.
• Wash your face with cold water
2. Reset breathing
• Breathe in through your nose for 4 seconds
• Hold your breath for 4 seconds
• Exhale slowly through your mouth over 8 seconds
• Repeat this for 3 sets
3. Self-compassion
• "I'm working really hard right now."
• “I don’t have to be a perfect mother.”
• "Taking a break is good for your baby too."
• “Tomorrow will be easier than today.”
[Stage 3: Severe Stress (Emergency Stage)]
Danger signs
Feeling scared of the baby
• You feel an urge to throw someone away
• Tears won't stop
Shaking hands and shortness of breath
● Emergency response plan
1. Immediate safety
Keep your baby in a safe place
• Move to a safe place yourself
• Continue to take deep breaths
2. Emergency Contact
• Instantly contact trusted family, friends, and neighbors
• Specific request: "Please come right now"
• Tell them you don't want to be alone.
3. Consult a specialist institution
• Local health center (24-hour service)
• Midwifery outpatient clinic
• Online psychiatric and psychosomatic consultations
[Long-term mental health care strategy]
● Daily self-care
1. Improve your sleep quality
Rest with your baby when he or she is sleeping
• Keep housework to a minimum
• Keep the lights dim during nighttime feedings
• Actively take a 15-minute nap during the day
2. Nutrition and Hydration
• Keep easy-to-eat, nutritious foods on hand
• Drink plenty of fluids, as lack of fluids can cause emotional instability.
• Focus on B vitamins, iron, and omega-3 fatty acids
3. Moderate exercise
Squats while holding a baby
• Walking with a stroller
• Postnatal yoga (using YouTube, etc.)
Exposure to sunlight promotes serotonin secretion
[Emotional control techniques]
How to cope when you're irritated
1. Verbalizing emotions
• Say out loud, "I'm so frustrated right now."
• Accept that this is a natural reaction
• Remind yourself that "this feeling will pass"
2. Grounding Techniques
Place the soles of your feet firmly on the floor
• Find and name five objects around you
• Distinguish between four sounds
• Detect three smells
• Check the two sensations
• Focus on one flavor
3. Positive self-talk
• "I love you baby."
• "This situation will definitely improve."
• "Just getting through today is enough."
• “My baby can feel my efforts.”
Freedom from guilt
Common Guilts and Truths
Guilt: "I'm a bad mother because I'm so frustrated"
Truth: Parenting stress is a normal reaction that all mothers experience.
The key is not to avoid frustration, but to deal with it appropriately.
Guilt: "Other moms are doing it better"
Truth: We all have struggles that aren't apparent on social media or through appearances.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, it's important to go at your own pace.
Guilt: "I feel bad for my baby if I take a break"
Truth: A mother's physical and mental health is directly linked to her baby's well-being.
Adequate breaks improve the quality of childcare.
[Strengthening collaboration with partners]
●Effective communication methods
1. Sharing emotions
• Be specific about what was difficult for you today.
• Clearly request help
• Express gratitude every day
2. Review of role allocation
• Determine responsibilities on a weekly basis
• Decide based on "which one you have the time for" rather than "which one you're better at"
• Lowering the hurdles of housework
3. Find time for yourself
• Make time for each other, about 2 hours, 2-3 times a week.
• Recognize the value of "doing nothing" time
• Actively make time for hobbies and friends
[Utilizing professional support]
●List of consultation desks
In case of emergency (24 hours):
Lifeline: 0570-783-556
• Mental health and welfare centers in each prefecture
• Childline: 0120-99-7777
Daily consultation:
• Community Health Centers
• Comprehensive Support Center for Child-Rearing Generation
• Midwifery outpatient clinic for obstetrics and gynecology
• Online childcare consultation service
The important thing is,
Don't try to be the perfect mother .
80% parenting is enough.
The remaining 20 points will be filled in naturally with love and time.
The pain and fatigue you are feeling right now
It's a feeling that comes from loving your baby .
Once we get through this difficult time,
It's probably hard to imagine now
Deep love and connection awaits.
Family collaboration system and
How to use external support
Division of roles between husband and wife, support for parents,
How to use public support services wisely
"You don't have to carry everything alone"
With these words in mind,
By strategically building a support system ,
This can significantly reduce the burden of childcare.
In modern child-rearing,
The idea of "team parenting" is becoming increasingly important .
There is a limit to the power of one person,
With the right support system,
You can continue raising your child without any difficulty.
[Optimization strategies for marital cooperation]
●Basic principles of division of roles
1. Prioritize "what you can afford" over "what you're good at"
Abandoning the conventional stereotype that "mom takes care of the children and dad works,"
It is important to have the flexibility to respond to situations as they arise .
• Weekday nights: Determined by the level of fatigue upon returning home
• Holidays: Full shift system in the morning and afternoon
• Twilight crying time: Decide who will be on duty in advance
• Night crying: Shifts every 2-3 hours
2. Specific examples of timetable allocation
Weekday Schedule:
**6:00-8:00 (Morning preparation)**
• Mom: Changing baby's clothes and breastfeeding
• Dad: Prepare breakfast and take out the trash
**18:00-20:00 (for evening crying)**
• Weekdays: Dad takes over within 15 minutes of returning home
• Mom: Prepare dinner or take a bath
**20:00-23:00 (night preparation)**
• Take turns bathing and putting the child to bed
• One person is busy, the other is free
**23:00-6:00 (night service)**
• 2-3 hour shifts
• In the case of breastfeeding: Mom feeds, Dad soothes
• For milk: Complete replacement
Holiday Schedule:
**Saturday**
• Morning (8:00-13:00): Daddy is in charge
Afternoon (13:00-18:00): Mommy in charge
• Evening (18:00-23:00): Collaborative work
**Sunday**
• Switch roles with the previous week
• Five hours of completely free time for each participant
● Measures to improve communication】
1. Daily information sharing system
• "Today's Baby Report" (5 minutes)
- Number and duration of breastfeeding
- Time of day when the baby cried and how to deal with it
- New discoveries and changes
- Things to be careful about tomorrow
• Share your "Today's fatigue level" on a 10-point scale
- 8 or more: Ask the other person for support
- 5-7: As usual
- 4 or less: Support the opponent
2. Make expressing gratitude a habit
Say at least three "thank yous" every day
• Praise specific behaviors
• Don't take things for granted
• Express appreciation even for small things
[How to utilize support from your parents and relatives]
How to make an effective request
1. A specific and clear request
❌ Bad example: "Please help me if anything happens."
⭕ Good example: "Could you please watch my baby for three hours every Tuesday from 2-5pm?"
• Specify the date and time clearly
• Always communicate the end time
• Explain what you're doing
• Provide emergency contact information
2. Smoothly reconcile differences in child-rearing views with the parent generation
Common disagreements and how to handle them:
**"In the past, babies would get used to being held, so don't hold them too much."**
→ "The latest research shows that plenty of cuddling leads to emotional stability."
**"You don't have enough breast milk, so add more milk."**
→ "After consulting with my pediatrician, I was told that the current pace is fine."
**"Night crying will go away if you make the baby endure it."**
→ "It is currently believed that the situation can be improved quickly by taking appropriate measures."
●Dividing roles with grandparents
Examples of effective division of labor:
• Meal preparation and housekeeping support
• Playmates for older children
• Shopping agent
• Short-term baby watching (ensuring mommy has time to bathe and sleep)
• Transportation to hospital
[Complete guide to using public support services]
Postpartum care business (nationwide)
1. Postpartum helper dispatch
• Cost: 1,000-3,000 yen for 2-3 hours (varies depending on the municipality)
• Housework, childcare, and shopping assistance
• How to apply: Contact the childcare support department of the city, town or village where you live.
• Frequency of use: Approximately 1-2 times a week for up to 6 months after giving birth
2. Postpartum day care services
• Temporary rest during the day, consultations, and making friends
• Professional support from midwives and public health nurses
• Cost: 2,000-5,000 yen for one day
• Many facilities provide lunch and snacks
3. Postpartum short stay
• 1-2 nights of accommodation support
• 24-hour care for mother and child
• Cost: 10,000-20,000 yen for 2 days and 1 night
• Physical and mental recovery, childcare guidance, and rest
●Temporary childcare and childcare support center
1. Temporary childcare (emergency/refreshment)
• Conditions of use: Parental visits, work, and refreshment
• Suitable age: 6 months and up
• Cost: 500-1,000 yen per hour
• Reservations: Accepted one week in advance (early reservations are required due to popularity)
2. Childcare Support Center
• Free play area and consultation area
• Opportunity to interact with mothers of the same generation
• Childcare consultation by specialized staff
• Programs and classes by age
●Housework support and delivery services
1. Housework support commissioned by local governments
• Can be used from 6 months to 1 year after delivery
• Cleaning, laundry, shopping, cooking
• Cost: 300-800 yen per hour
• There may be income restrictions
2. Utilizing private delivery services
Co-op delivery: convenient for heavy items and frozen foods
• Online supermarket: Same-day delivery available
• Food delivery: cooked and semi-cooked meal kits
• Baby food delivery: Baby food according to age
[Strategic use of private services]
Babysitter
Effective use:
• Regular use: Build a trusting relationship with the same sitter once a week
• Spot use: beauty salon, hospital, important business
• Nighttime use: Couples going out and refreshing themselves
• Housekeeping service: childcare and housework at the same time
**Cost-effectiveness thinking:**
• 6,000-9,000 yen for 2-3 hours
• Think of it as an investment to “buy time”
• Investing in moms' mental health
• Investing in maintaining your marriage
Postpartum doula and childcare concierge
Postpartum professional support
• Comprehensive support for childcare, housework, and mental health care
• Creating individual plans and ongoing follow-up
• Long-term support from newborn to weaning stage
[The secret to successful support utilization]
Changing mindset
1. From "doing it alone" to "surviving as a team"
Asking for help is not a weakness, it's a wise decision
• Let go of perfectionism and aim for "good enough"
• Support allows for better quality childcare
2. Gratitude and give-and-take
When you receive support, always show your gratitude through words and actions .
• Willingness to support others in the future
• Building a network of mutual help
●Building relationships with a long-term perspective
The support relationships we build now are
I'm sure it will be helpful when you have your second or third child.
And when your child grows up,
"At that time, I grew up surrounded by the love of many people."
It will remain as a warm memory.
Don't keep it to yourself,
While actively accepting the love and support of those around me,
Let's get through this precious newborn period.
Expert supervision advice ×
Proven Experiences
Crying prevention measures that actually worked
Recording changes in growth by month
I understand the theory, but what about in practice?
To answer such questions,
Expert medical advice and
We will share the real experiences of experienced mothers who have actually seen results.
From these examples,
Hope that "I will surely find a method that suits me"
I hope you can feel it.
[Experts explain: The truth behind baby crying]
●Message from a pediatrician (30 years of experience)
"I've examined thousands of babies over the past 30 years.
I have never met a baby that doesn't cry.
Many parents worry that "only my child cries abnormally",
In fact, over 95% of children are completely within the normal range .
What's important is not the number of times or the duration of crying,
"Is your overall condition good?"
Being able to breastfeed and gain weight
If there is a moment when the crying stops, there is no need to worry.
And a mother's intuition can be more accurate than medical tests.
If you feel like something is a bit strange, please don't hesitate to contact us."
●Advice from a midwife (20 years of experience)
"The most important thing about newborn crying is
"Finding patterns."
If you keep a daily record,
There is sure to be some regularity.
• Baby always cries within 2 hours of feeding → Insufficient burping
• Intense crying from around 5pm in the evening → typical twilight crying
• Cries when the room temperature exceeds 25 degrees → Sensitive to heat
• Changing the way you hold your baby can help them stop crying → Position preference
Once you understand "this child's own pattern,"
Parenting becomes so much easier.
In most cases, the condition improves dramatically after the baby is three months old .
That "it won't last forever"
Please keep that in mind.”
[Real experiences by age]
[Newborn period (0-1 month) experience]
◆In the case of Mr. A (first child, boy)
"Suddenly, two weeks after birth,
Cry for two hours every day starting at 5pm.
At first I thought, "Am I hungry?"
I tried to breastfeed her frequently but it didn't help at all.
When I spoke to the midwife,
When I was told, "That's typical twilight crying," I felt relieved for the first time.
**Workarounds that worked:**
• Going out for a drive before 5 o'clock
• I often fell asleep in the car.
• Keeping the exhaust fan on while at home
I leave everything to my husband and rest in another room.
From about 6 weeks old, the crying time suddenly became shorter.
It was completely cured within 3 months.
Thinking about it now, I believed that "it will end someday"
Maybe it was a good thing that I didn't push myself too hard."
◆In the case of B (second child, girl)
"My first child was a child who never cried,
I was really confused by my second child's intense crying.
Especially the "Ehhh" crying after breastfeeding
It's hard to keep going for 30 minutes every time...
**Workarounds that worked:**
• Stand up and pat your baby on the back during feeding
• Always hold your baby upright for 15 minutes after feeding
• Never let your child sleep until they burp.
Place it on your shoulders and gently rock it back and forth
With this method, sometimes a little milk would come out along with the burp,
After that, he always stopped crying.
Once I understood that it was just a difference in personality,
I no longer get frustrated.”
[Experiences of babies aged 1-3 months]
◆In the case of Mr. C (first child, boy)
"The first two months of my life were the hardest...
There are days when I cry from morning until night,
I kept blaming myself, thinking, "Am I doing something wrong in raising my child?"
**Turning discovery:**
I noticed that there are signs before I start crying .
• When your baby starts moving his/her hands, it's time to breastfeed.
• If you start rubbing your eyes, go to bed immediately
• When you hear an "ahh" sound, massage your stomach.
**Most effective method:**
• The perfect swaddle (I learned how to do it on YouTube)
• Always play white noise app
• Complete shifts with my husband (every hour)
• Tell yourself every day, "If I can just get through today, it'll be OK."
At 3 months and 2 weeks old,
It was as if a spell had been broken and the amount of time I spent crying decreased dramatically.
I truly believe that those difficult days are now precious memories ."
Ms. D (third child, girl)
"My third child and my first experience of 'twilight crying'.
This never happened with my two older children,
At first I was worried, wondering if he was unwell.
But during the day, he's in a good mood,
I'm able to breastfeed without any problems,
I decided to accept it as "one of my personalities."
**Solution with the help of my older children:**
In the evening, I play outside with my older children (with the baby in a stroller).
• My older child sings to me at home.
• My brother talks to me and says, "It's okay."
• The whole family joins in on the "Stop Crying Mission"
Because of the experience,
Because I knew it would definitely end,
I didn't feel the same despair as I did with my first child.
With the cooperation of the whole family,
For the older children too
I think it was a good experience to learn how to take good care of a baby ."
[Experiences of a 3-6 month old]
◆In the case of Ms. E (first child, girl)
"The night crying that started when my baby was 4 months old was really painful...
Up until then, he had been sleeping through the night,
Suddenly, I started crying every night between 2am and 4am.
At first, I felt like I had gone back in time and was very shocked.
**Effective night crying remedies:**
• Slightly reduced stimulation during the day (visiting the children's center once a week)
• Turn off the TV and stay quiet after 7pm
• Make your bedroom completely dark with blackout curtains
Never turn on the lights after a nighttime feeding
• Co-sleeping provides a sense of security
**Surprising discovery:**
If you expose it to a lot of sunlight during the day,
My sleep at night has improved dramatically.
Also, don't panic if your baby cries at night.
If you think, "It's developing again,"
I feel less irritated.
At 7 months of age, the crying stopped naturally.
Now he sleeps soundly until morning."
[Special case: Experiences that required specialized support]
In the case of Mr. F (first child, boy)
"When he was one month old, he was clearly different from usual.
She cried for three hours in a high-pitched shriek.
A mother's intuition that "something is wrong"
Although it was late at night, I went to the emergency room.
**Diagnosis result:**
It was the early symptoms of mild intussusception.
Early detection and treatment
It improved without surgery.
**What I learned from this experience:**
• Value the feeling of being "different from usual"
• Don't be shy about consulting an expert
• Clarify the criteria for deciding whether to “wait and see” or “visit a doctor immediately”
From the doctor
I was praised for having "great motherly intuition."
Because I've always been a careful observer,
I think they realized that it was different from usual."
[Summary of the experiences of experts]
Pediatrician's comment
What these experiences have in common is that
"We understand each child's individuality and find a method that suits them."
Even if the textbook method doesn't work,
Don't give up and try different approaches
He has found his own solution.
Also, it is important
"We didn't strive for perfection and worked together as a family."
By not trying to handle it alone and taking advantage of the support of those around you,
Both parent and child are coping in good health.
And the most impressive thing is,
Many parents say that this experience gave them confidence in raising children later on .
Even though it's hard now,
What you can gain by overcoming this period
The growth and bonds created are immeasurable."
A message of encouragement from the midwife
"As you can see from reading the testimonials,
"No two babies have the same experience."
That's why,
There is no need to compare your baby with other babies.
What's important is,
The best way for your baby
Keep searching with love.
And no matter how difficult the times,
Remember, "the end will come."
The baby crying now
To you in the near future
It will give you the best smile.
Looking forward to that moment,
Please cherish each and every day."
[Finally: Hope for the future]
These experiences show that
"No matter how difficult the newborn period may be, you can definitely get through it."
That is what it means.
And this experience was not just a "trial"
It will make you a stronger, kinder parent.
It's "irreplaceable time."
You may not see it now, but
In a few years, surely
"Even those difficult days are fond memories"
You will be able to look back on it as
You and your baby's future
May it be filled with love and laughter.
A final message to moms and dads troubled by their baby's crying
Thank you for reading this long guide to the end.
Thank you very much.
I'm sure you are facing your baby's crying every day right now.
You may be worried, wondering, "Am I raising my children the right way?"
But now that you've read this guide,
I'm sure you've gained a lot of new insights and peace of mind.
• There is always a reason why your baby is crying.
• Understand why and how to deal with it appropriately.
• This difficult time will surely come to an end.
• You don't have to deal with it alone
Most importantly,
"You don't have to be a perfect parent."
80% parenting is enough.
The remaining 20 points will be filled in naturally with love and time.
At this very moment, somewhere,
There are moms and dads who are dealing with their babies' cries.
You are not alone.
And you are definitely a great parent.
A few years from now, when you are walking holding your child's hand,
You probably think this.
"Even during that difficult newborn period,
It's now a fond memory."
Until that day comes, please take care of yourself,
Please get through this precious time.
I'm rooting for you.
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