Raising a 10-month-old and 11-month-old baby
Cannot stand up and suddenly starts crying at night
"My baby is 10 months old and still can't stand up..."
"My baby isn't gaining weight at all and is off the growth chart..."
"My baby suddenly started crying at night and wouldn't sleep until morning..."
If you are a mother raising a baby who is 10 or 11 months old,
Have you ever felt this kind of anxiety?
The mother herself, who is now 10 and 11 months postpartum,
I felt at my limit due to chronic sleep deprivation and childcare fatigue.
"Maybe my upbringing is bad... Maybe they have a developmental disorder."
There may be nights when you find yourself seriously worried about this.
However, many of these worries are actually unfounded.
In fact, the normal range for a baby to stand up is up to 1 year and 3 months old .
The lack of weight gain is due to increased activity and normal development .
The sudden onset of nighttime crying was due to sleep regression caused by rapid brain growth .
A pediatrician who has watched over the development of over 3,000 babies,
Supervised by a clinical psychologist who specializes in the mental care of postpartum mothers,
The reassuring truth that "your baby and mom are okay"
This guide will tell you.
In addition, they do not speak, point, or imitate.
Concerns about language development
We will introduce appropriate criteria based on scientific evidence.
By the time you finish reading,
"Oh, so that's how it was! My child was growing up just fine."
With a deep sense of relief,
Your love for your baby will grow stronger than ever.
Reasons why 10-11 month olds can't stand up
The truth about growth curves
Are concerns about not gaining weight and developmental disorders just groundless?
Medical basis for normal range up to 1 year and 3 months
"He's 10 or 11 months old, but he still can't stand up..."
"He's not gaining weight and he's fallen off the growth curve..."
There is one fact that mothers who are worried about this should know first.
The normal range for a baby to stand up is actually between 8 months and 1 year and 3 months of age .
According to the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare's physical development data, the standard weight for a 10-month-old baby is
Boys: 7.3-10.6kg, girls: 6.9-10.1kg.
If you stay within this range, it's no problem even if you don't gain weight.
This is because the amount of exercise increases dramatically at around 10 and 11 months of age.
This is because crawling and crawling burns a lot of calories.
In fact, weight gain slows down during this period.
It's a sign that your baby's metabolism is working properly .
Regarding concerns that "the child may have a developmental disorder,"
At 10 and 11 months old it's too early to tell.
According to a pediatric neurologist,
A definitive diagnosis is difficult to make until the child is three years of age or older .
The main reasons why a child cannot stand up are:
• Enjoying a good crawling period
• Balancing weight and muscle strength
• Safety checks due to careful nature
It's all part of your baby's personality and development.
Shuffling babies and babies who don't crawl
Developmental support
When the child does not move from a sitting position, does not have a parachute reflex, or does not want to put his feet down
Affectionate Care Method
"My child doesn't crawl, he moves around by sitting..."
It's called a "shuffling baby."
It is a normal pattern of development .
The characteristics of shuffling babies are:
• Move by pedaling your legs while sitting
• Parachute not reflective
• Reluctant to put one's feet on the ground
• They start walking a little late, between 1.5 and 2 years old
Even if these symptoms are present,
Ultimately, most children develop normally .
The parachute reflex is what happens when you are about to fall forward.
It is a reflex that causes you to put your hands forward to protect yourself.
It is said to appear at 10 and 11 months of age,
There is a lot of individual variation, and in most cases there is no need to worry even if your child is late .
Loving care for babies who don't want to put their feet up
The most important thing is not to try to force it to stand.
instead,
• Enhancing seated play
• Encourage fine motor skills
• Sway your body to the music
Through these activities,
Let's naturally develop your baby's desire to move.
The important thing is to accept your baby's individuality and
Respect the child's own pace of development.
Many shuffling babies
Once they start walking, they demonstrate the same athletic ability as other children.
10-11 month old baby doesn't eat baby food/doesn't eat 3 meals a day
Complete strategy
Banana hardness guide, iron deficiency anemia prevention,
The scientific truth about play and eating for brain development
"I want to get him to eat three meals a day, but he won't eat anything..."
How hard is a banana exactly?
Regarding baby food for 10 and 11 month olds,
We answer questions that many moms have.
First of all, there is no need to panic if your child is not making it through all three meals.
If the baby isn't ready,
The best thing to do is to continue feeding them two meals a day and see how it goes.
To tell you the truth about the "banana hardness guideline,"
The ideal banana is ripe enough that it can be crushed by gently pressing it with your fingers .
However, it is not a paste.
It is important that the shape remains.
Because this hardness
This is because it is perfect for practicing chewing with your gums .
One thing to be especially careful about during this time is anemia caused by iron deficiency .
From about 9 months of age, the iron provided by the mother begins to be depleted.
Iron-rich foods:
• Liver, lean fish, hijiki seaweed
• Spinach, Komatsuna
• Iron-fortified baby food
Many mothers worry about "play eating,"
In fact, this is an important sign of rapid brain development .
Actions such as mashing, mixing, and throwing food
• Improved dexterity
• Understanding causal relationships
• Development of sensory integration skills
It is a valuable learning experience that promotes both of these things at the same time.
How to overcome sudden nighttime crying and sleep regression
It takes a long time to get them to sleep. They don't take naps.
How to deal with 10- and 11-month-olds who don't sleep until morning
"Until now, my baby has been sleeping until morning, but suddenly he started crying at night..."
It's called "sleep regression."
This is a normal phenomenon that is common in babies between the ages of 10 and 11 months .
Why sleep regression happens:
• Information processing due to rapid brain development
• Excitement due to improved motor function
• Increased separation anxiety
• Organizing daytime stimuli
"It takes a long time to get them to sleep"
Evidence of baby's growth.
At this stage, babies often say things like, "I still want to play" and "I still want to stay awake."
The ego is beginning to emerge.
Effective countermeasures include:
1. Moderate daytime stimulation
Avoid excessive exercise and going out to new environments.
Increase your calm time.
2. Establish a bedtime routine
Bathing → breastfeeding → picture book → turning off the lights, etc.
Creating a consistent flow gives a sense of security.
3. Minimal response at night
Even if they cry, wait a few minutes and see how they react.
Let your baby practice falling back to sleep on his own.
If they "don't take a nap," don't force them.
Taking a nap after 3pm will affect your sleep at night.
Use this time to be quiet even when you are awake .
When to stop breastfeeding, differences in weaning and the effects of night weaning
Timing of weaning at 10 and 11 months after giving birth
Step-by-step method to successfully stop breastfeeding
"It's been 10 and 11 months since I gave birth, but I don't know when to stop breastfeeding..."
"I want to stop breastfeeding, but what should I do?"
Breastfeeding concerns can be a major source of stress for mothers.
Let's start by understanding the difference between weaning and weaning .
Weaning : When a baby naturally stops wanting to breastfeed
• Weaning : Ending breastfeeding at the mother's convenience
If you are 10 or 11 months postpartum,
Nutritionally, baby food is the main focus,
Either choice will be good for your baby's health.
"Nighttime weaning" is particularly effective in reducing night crying.
Many moms see dramatic changes in just 4-7 days.
Step-by-step guide to successful night weaning:
[Preparation period (3 days)]
• Ensure frequent daytime feedings
• Make sure your baby eats solid food
• Creating a system to get dads to cooperate
[Execution period (3-7 days)]
• Only drink fluids during the night (plain water and barley tea)
• Respond by holding the baby and patting its back
• Patiently watch over them
The trick to stopping side-breastfeeding is to take a gradual approach.
Instead of suddenly quitting,
Side-feeding → Holding the baby while breastfeeding → Bottle feeding → None
Let's move slowly in that order.
The important thing is for the mother to be mentally prepared .
If you are unsure, your baby will sense it.
The secret to successful finger feeding and the path to independent eating
Spoon practice, spill prevention,
How to increase your desire to eat
"Once he starts eating with his hands, the dinner table becomes like a battlefield..."
"Spilling, messing, throwing...I'm at my limit of frustration."
I understand very well how a mother feels.
But in fact, eating with your hands is the first step towards your baby becoming independent in eating .
The desire to "eat by myself" at 10 and 11 months old
It is a valuable ability that forms the foundation for future independence and concentration.
Five important skills developed through hand-feeding
• Finger dexterity : Adjusting pinch strength
Hand-eye coordination : Practice hitting the target
• Improved chewing ability : Experience chewing at your own pace
Perception of fullness : the feeling that you're full
• Understanding ingredients : learning about hardness, temperature and taste
The key to preventing spills and messes is to improve the environment.
Preparation list:
• Newspaper or picnic sheets on the floor
• Clothes that can get dirty and a sleeveless apron
• Instant wet wipes
• Tableware that is safe to drop (wooden or plastic)
Step-by-step guide to spoon practice
[Stage 1: Showing interest]
Give your child a baby spoon and let them touch it freely
[Stage 2: Practicing scooping]
The baby learns the sensation of mommy holding his/her hand and scooping him/her up.
[Stage 3: Practice bringing it to your mouth]
Repeatedly practice the action of bringing the scooped food to your mouth
The key to success is not to strive for perfection .
At first, it is sufficient to feed 80% of the food by hand and 20% by spoon.
To encourage children to eat by themselves,
It is effective to give exaggerated praise when they do something well.
"That's amazing! You ate that all by yourself!"
This will greatly boost your baby's confidence and motivation.
How to resolve concerns about speech development when a child does not speak, babble, or point
Bye-bye clapping, can't imitate,
How to interact when you can't make eye contact
"He's 10 and 11 months old and still not speaking..."
"Even when I teach him to say 'bye-bye' and 'clap clap', he doesn't imitate them at all..."
Many mothers have concerns about their baby's language development.
First of all, I want you to know:
There are greater individual differences in language development than you might imagine .
Language development guidelines for 10-11 month olds:
Babbling : sounds like "mama" and "daddy"
Pointing : Point to something that interests you
• Imitation : actions such as bye-bye, clapping, etc.
• Comprehension : Understand the meaning of simple words
Even if your child is unable to do these things, in most cases it will be fine if you monitor them until they are around 3 years old .
Criteria for determining whether there is no need to worry even if there is no speech:
✅ Turns around when you call his name
✅ Give something by saying "please"
✅ Move your body in response to the music
✅ Make eye contact and smile
✅ Reach out for things that interest you
Effective ways to encourage people without pointing
1. Adults actively point
"Oh, there's Woof Woof," he said, pointing.
2. Follow your baby's gaze
See what your baby sees and empathize with them
3. Repeat the hand song
Games that involve hand movements, such as "peek-a-boo"
Some mothers worry about not making eye contact,
At 10 and 11 months of age, babies are absorbed in things that interest them.
It's natural for there to be a period when you don't see the faces of adults.
The magic that draws out words
• Live coverage : verbalize your baby's actions
• Present a choice : "Which do you prefer, an apple or a banana?"
Wait time : Wait 3 seconds for your baby to respond
• Repetition : Using the same words over and over again
The most important thing is to convey the joy of communication rather than words .
If you enjoy interacting with your mom,
The words come naturally.
Complete guide to safety measures and accident prevention for babies aged 10 and 11 months
Starting to stand up, crawling, choosing first shoes
Avoiding danger in the home
Once a baby starts to stand up, their range of movement expands dramatically.
What was previously a safe place will become a danger zone.
Looking at the accident statistics for babies aged 10 and 11 months,
Falls : from stairs, beds, sofas
Accidental ingestion : small objects, medicine, cosmetics
• Getting caught in gaps between doors, drawers, and furniture
Burn accidents : stoves, rice cookers, irons
This period is characterized by a rapid increase in these numbers.
Emergency safety measures when starting to stand
[Height measures]
• Corner guards for table corners
• Baby gates installed at the top and bottom of stairs
• Bed rails to prevent falls
• Window fall prevention stoppers
[Prevention of accidental ingestion]
• Put away anything smaller than 3.9cm in diameter
• Move medicines and cosmetics to higher places
• Strict management of batteries, buttons, and coins
• Be careful with pet food too
Once the "walking along" begins,
It's time to prepare your child's first shoes .
Tips for choosing:
• Size : 5-8mm of space at the toes
• Material : Breathable natural material
• Bottom : Non-slip and moderately thick
• Easy to put on : Velcro or lace type
Danger points that are often overlooked
1. Bathroom : Toothbrush, razor, detergent
2. Kitchen : knives, seasonings, trash can
3. Living room : Houseplants, ashtray, remote control
4. Bedroom : accessories, perfume, medicine
It is important to check safety measures from the baby's perspective.
Get down on the floor and explore your home from a baby's perspective .
Furthermore, the basis for preventing accidents is "environmental improvement" rather than "prohibition."
While valuing your baby's curiosity,
It's important to create a safe environment for them to explore.
👉Safety measures when going out
💡Check your safety while eating
How to deal with shy dad's peak shyness and separation anxiety
Extremely chasing, unable to go to the toilet
Step-by-step preparation for entering nursery school
"He cries just going to the toilet...he follows me around too much."
"He won't stop crying even when his daddy holds him... He's terribly afraid of his daddy."
Between 10 and 11 months of age, separation anxiety reaches its peak .
In fact, this phenomenon,
This is proof of growth as the child begins to recognize their mother as a special person .
Developmental reasons for separation anxiety:
• Improved memory and remembered mom's face
• To help children understand the concept of "pee-in-pee"
• Deep attachment relationships were formed
• Develops wariness of strangers
How to survive in a "chasing-fast" period
[Short-time separation practice]
1. When you go to the toilet, say, "I'll be right back."
2. Say "Mommy's here" through the door
3. When you return, praise your child by saying, "I'm back, you were waiting for me."
[Techniques to overcome dad shyness]
• Make time for daddy when mommy is around.
• Establish your own style of play
• Increase positive involvement from dads
• Mom shows her love for her dad
Step-by-step preparation for entering nursery school
Preparations to start 2-3 months before enrollment:
[Stage 1: Getting used to other people]
Increase short-term interactions with grandparents, relatives, friends, etc.
[Stage 2: Food from someone other than the mother]
Gain experience of receiving baby food from daddy or grandmother
[Phase 3: Adjusting your daily rhythm]
Adjusting daily rhythms to match the nursery school schedule
[Phase 4: Short-term childcare practice]
Gradually extend from 1 hour to 2 hours to half a day
The key is to not feel mommy guilt .
"Poor thing," "I'm sorry for making you feel lonely"
This feeling is conveyed to the baby,
It will increase anxiety.
instead,
"It was great to experience a new world."
Let's send it off with a positive attitude.
Separation anxiety will subside naturally by the time your child is about 18 months old.
It may be difficult at the moment, but it is proof that a strong attachment relationship has been established.
Please watch over them warmly.
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Checking for fatigue and postpartum depression in mothers 10 and 11 months after giving birth
Lack of sleep, childcare stress, single parenting
Scientific mental care methods
"I'm exhausted... but taking care of a baby won't wait."
"Nothing I do these days is fun... is this postpartum depression?"
The problems faced by mothers 10 and 11 months after giving birth
Let's face the serious fatigue of mind and body.
In fact, postpartum depression peaks between six months and one year after giving birth .
It is not just "immediately after giving birth" that you need to be careful, but this is the period in particular.
Postpartum Depression Self-Checklist
If any of the following symptoms persist for more than two weeks, consult a doctor:
✅ I don't feel any joy no matter what I do
✅ Always tired and unmotivated
✅ Lack of appetite or tendency to overeat
✅ Can't sleep or feel sleepy all day
✅ I keep blaming myself
✅ I can't concentrate
✅ Sometimes I don't think babies are cute
Stressors specific to those 10 and 11 months postpartum
Accumulation of sleep deprivation : 10 months of chronic sleep deprivation
• Anxiety about returning to society : Fear of balancing work and life
Comparing with other children : anxiety about differences in development
The loneliness of single parenting : No one to talk to
Complete loss of personal time : loss of identity
Scientific mental care methods
[Serotonin secretion promotion method]
• Get 15 minutes of morning sun exposure (a balcony is fine)
• Practice deep breathing for 5 minutes, 3 times a day
• Light exercise while listening to your favorite music
• Eat foods rich in tryptophan (bananas, natto, cheese)
[Oxytocin secretion promotion method]
• Make a conscious effort to spend time with your baby
• Interacting with pets (if you have any)
• Make time to talk with someone you trust
• Expose yourself to inspiring movies and books
Specific measures to escape single-parent parenting
1. Utilizing local resources
Childcare support center, temporary childcare, housekeeping services
2. Join online communities
Exchange information and share concerns with other mothers of babies of the same age
3. How to involve your family
How to make specific requests and express gratitude
4. Let go of perfectionism
Setting housework and childcare standards of "60 points is OK"
Emergency SOS contact information
• Obstetrics and Gynecology (hospital where you gave birth)
• Psychosomatic medicine and psychiatry
• Community health centers
• Postnatal care facilities
• Childcare consultation desks in each local government
The most important thing is to understand that there is no such thing as a perfect mom .
Rest when you're tired, ask for help when you're in pain.
It's nothing to be ashamed of,
This is an important step to protect both the baby and the mother .
Preparing for return to work, enrolling in daycare, and strategies to minimize separation anxiety
Adjusting daily rhythms, breastfeeding schedules,
Relieving mommy guilt and preparing yourself
"I'll be returning to work next spring... but what if my child starts crying at daycare?"
"How do I stop breastfeeding? I feel so guilty..."
Ten or eleven months after giving birth is the time when many mothers start thinking about returning to work.
It's very natural to feel anxious and guilty.
A three-month preparation schedule for a successful return to work
[3 months before: Building the foundation]
• Check the nursery school schedule for adjustment
• Sick child care and family support registration
• Discuss and set rules for household chores
• Create an emergency contact list
[2 months before: Adjusting your daily routine]
• Transition to wake-up and bedtimes that are consistent with daycare
• Adjust nap times (according to daycare schedule)
• Fixing baby food times
• Establish a morning preparation routine
[1 month before: Adjust breastfeeding schedule]
• Gradually reduce the number of daytime feedings
• Practice drinking water using a baby bottle or straw cup
• Prepare to pump and freeze breast milk (if continuing)
• Transition to nighttime feedings only
A scientific approach to minimizing separation anxiety
1. Progressive separation practice
• Extend the time in the following order: 30 minutes → 1 hour → 3 hours → half a day
• Always say "I'm leaving" or "I'm back"
• Always be on time to pick up your child.
• Expressing great joy when reunited
2. Use safety products
• Towels or handkerchiefs that smell like mom
• Favorite stuffed animal
• Family photos
3. Collaboration with childcare workers
• Tell us in detail about your baby's favorite activities and foods
• Share your daily routine and habits at home
• If you have any tips on how to stop the crying, please let me know.
A mindset to eliminate mommy guilt
Many mothers feel that it is a shame to leave their baby in someone else's care.
But actually, daycare has some benefits that you can't get at home:
• Social development : Interactions with peers
• Diversity of stimuli : new games, songs, and activities
• Establishing a routine : regular rhythm
• Promoting independence : Relationships with adults other than the mother
Preparation for returning to work
The first 1-2 weeks are difficult for both the baby and the mother.
Accept that now is the time to get used to it :
• Don't strive for perfection
• Early departure due to illness is expected.
• Don't forget to show gratitude to your colleagues and superiors
• Say "thank you for your hard work" to yourself too.
Being a working mom is
It is also a wonderful educational experience for babies, showing them the sight of their mother working hard .
Embrace this new stage with pride, not guilt.
How to make the most of the 10-month checkup: developmental checks and when to consult with a specialist
Concerns about developmental disorders, assessment of the need for medical treatment,
A complete guide to developmental prospects for your baby as he turns one.
What should I ask about at the 10-month checkup?
"I'm concerned about my child's development, but when is the best time to consult a specialist?"
The first 10 and 11 months of life are important milestone periods leading up to your baby's first birthday.
It is important to work with a specialist at the right time.
Five things you should definitely check at your 10-month checkup
1. Motor development
• Whether or not the child can stand up with support and its stability
• Crawling and crawling
• Developing balance and muscle strength
2. Cognitive and social development
• Degree of shyness and following around others
• Imitation behavior (bye-bye, clap-clap)
• Interest in objects and exploratory behavior
3. Language Development
• Type and frequency of babbling
• Whether or not pointing occurs
• Understanding of simple language
4. Diet and nutritional status
• Progress of weaning
• Hand-feeding situation
• A tendency to gain weight
5. Sleep and daily routine
• Nighttime sleep quality
• Nap patterns
• Frequency of night crying
Worrying signs that require professional consultation
If you experience multiple of the following symptoms and they continue for more than a month:
🚨High urgency
• Doesn't make eye contact or smile
• He doesn't even turn around when you call his name
• No significant weight loss or gain
• Extremely picky eating habits and refusal to drink water
⚠️Must be observed
• Unstable sitting position (at 10 months of age)
• No babbling at all
• Little interest in things
• Extremely easy to cry or won't stop crying
Criteria for determining the need for medical treatment
Therapeutic education is not "treatment" but "developmental support."
The benefits of starting early are significant, and should be actively considered if:
• Significant developmental delay (more than 3 months)
• Challenges in multiple developmental areas
• Significant difficulty in daily life
• Family members are experiencing strong anxiety
Growth outlook for 1 year old
[Movement]
• Standing up with support → Walking with support → Walking alone
• Going up and down stairs (with handrails)
• Playing with balls and building blocks
[Language]
• 1-3 meaningful words
• Understanding simple instructions ("please give me" and "please")
• Pointing to express a request
[Social]
• Simple interactions with adults
• Laugh at peek-a-boo
• Stabilizing attachment relationships
Preparing for effective expert consultations
Information you should have ready before your consultation:
• Maternal and Child Health Handbook (record of development to date)
• Videos of behaviors of concern
• Weekly life record
• Family developmental history
• A list of specific questions
What's important is the spirit of "early detection and early support."
Talking about worries while they are still small
Both the baby and the mother can grow up in a safer environment.
Your love is your baby's best nutrition
For babies aged 10 and 11 months and mothers aged 10 and 11 months postpartum.
My baby won't stand up, he won't gain weight, he suddenly starts crying at night...
All of these concerns were part of the normal developmental process of the baby.
There is no such thing as perfect parenting.
The very feeling you have for your baby,
It's love that's most important to a baby .
This guide will ease mom's worries and
We hope to help you spend more happy days with your baby.
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