Newborn 0-1 month to-do list

Birth notification, childcare allowance, weight gain

No worries about breastfeeding or sleeping

A complete checklist for submitting birth notification within 14 days

Penalties for late submissions, weekend submissions, and tips for submitting even when you're back home

"Within 14 days, there's no time left!"

In the midst of the hustle and bustle after giving birth, many mothers are anxious about submitting birth registration.

In fact, there is no penalty even after 14 days.

However, if you are late without a valid reason, there is a "possibility" that you will be fined up to 50,000 yen.

But don't worry.

Cases where fines are actually imposed are extremely rare.

If there are reasons such as "baby's health is not good" or "mother's health is not good",

First of all, there will be no problem.

[Complete checklist for submitting birth registration]

✅ Required documents (things you must not forget)

・Birth notification form (with birth certificate obtained from the hospital)

・Maternal and Child Health Handbook

・Personal seal of the person submitting the notification (Shachihata stamps are not accepted)

・Identification document of the person submitting the notification (driver's license, etc.)

✅ How to submit on weekends and holidays

・Use the night or holiday counters at government offices

The security guard will receive it.

・Even if there are any defects, you can rest assured that they will contact you later.

✅ If you are giving birth at your hometown

・Can be submitted at the local government office in your hometown

・It is okay if it is not your registered domicile.

・Submission by mail is also possible (although there is a risk of loss)

"I still can't decide on a name..." What should I do?

In fact, you can still decide on a name on the day you submit your birth certificate.

However, you want to avoid making hasty decisions at the government office.

Ideally, narrow down your options to 2-3.

Make your final decision after seeing your baby's face.

"This name is perfect for this child."

Please take your time to savor this fateful moment.

Childcare lump-sum grant of 500,000 yen

A smart way to receive without losing a single yen

Pitfalls of the direct payment system: Forgetting to apply for the difference


How to use the proxy receiving system

"I heard I can get 500,000 yen, but what's it actually like?"

Lump-sum childcare allowance helps ease concerns about childbirth costs.

However, the system is complicated, and many mothers are confused and wonder, "How much will I end up with?"

In fact, there is a smart way to receive this lump sum.

[Complete comparison of direct payment system vs. proxy payment system]

✅ Direct payment system (for large hospitals)

・The health insurance association pays 500,000 yen directly to the hospital

・If the cost of childbirth is less than 500,000 yen, you will receive the difference

・Any amount exceeding 500,000 yen is self-paid

Easy payment upon discharge

✅ Receipt agent system (for small clinics)

・Application required in advance

・The basic system is the same as the direct payment system

Some clinics do not support this

⚠️ Don't forget to claim the difference

The important thing here is not to forget to apply for the difference.

For example, if the cost of childbirth is 450,000 yen, you are entitled to receive the difference of 50,000 yen .

However, surprisingly many mothers forget to submit this application.

[Complete Guide to Applying for Differences]

✅ Required documents

・Details of birth expenses (obtained from the hospital)

・Health insurance card

・Bankbook of the account to which the transfer will be made

·signature stamp

✅ Application deadline

・Within two years from the date of birth

But it's safer to apply early

✅ Where to apply

・Company employees: Health insurance association of the company where they work

・Self-employed: City, town or village office of your address

Please keep the detailed statement of delivery costs that you will be given by the hospital when you are discharged.

This is the important document you need to apply for the difference.

Because it is a system that "you will lose out if you don't know about it,"

Make sure you understand it and use it wisely.

Emergency measures for newborns who are not gaining 30g of weight per day

Step-by-step solutions and safety standards for 25g, 20g, no increase, and decrease

"My baby seems heavier than yesterday, is this normal?"

"Is it dangerous if I don't gain 30g a day?"

Newborn weight is a question many moms have.

First of all, please rest assured. The 30g increase per day is just a guideline, not an absolute requirement.

[The truth about newborn weight gain]

✅ Normal weight change pattern

・3-5 days after birth: temporary weight loss (physiological weight loss)

- A 3-10% loss in birth weight is normal

- Starts increasing around one week after birth

・Average gain is 25-30g per day

✅ Weight gain of 20-25g/day

・No problems at all

The baby is in a good mood

・Urination and pooping are going well

・Sleeping well

→ If you can confirm these, there is no need to worry.

✅ Weight gain of 15-20g/day

・Some caution is required

-Increase the number and duration of breastfeeding

・If breastfeeding, consider supplementing with formula

- Observe the situation for a week and if there is no improvement, consult a doctor

⚠️ If you are not gaining or losing weight

No weight gain for more than a week

・Continued weight loss

The baby is in a bad mood

・Exhausted

→ See a pediatrician as soon as possible

[Tips for measuring weight]

For accurate weight measurement:

✅ Standardized measurement conditions

・Same time every day (best before breastfeeding)

After changing a diaper

-Same clothes (or naked)

Use the same scale

Don't be fooled by short-term fluctuations

・Don't get too excited or upset on a daily basis

・Judged based on the average for one week

・A fluctuation of 50-100g depending on whether or not there is stool is normal

"I was so distracted by the number on the scale that I didn't have time to look at my baby's face..."

I often hear moms say things like this.

What's important is not the numbers, but the baby's "overall condition."

There are times when I wake up in a good mood,

Sleeping soundly after breastfeeding

He is peeing and pooping regularly.

If these can be confirmed,

Even if the weight gain is 20g/day, it is not a problem at all.

"A baby's development is its own individuality"

The most important thing is to keep these words in mind and watch over them calmly.

Is 15 breastfeeds a day too many for a newborn? The truth about determining if there is enough breast milk

Breastfeed every hour, no waking up in the middle of the night, no worries about not knowing if your baby is getting enough

"I breastfeed my baby 15 times a day, but he still cries..."

"I'm at my limit with breastfeeding every hour..."

For moms who are exhausted from frequent breastfeeding.

Did you know that frequent breastfeeding during the newborn period is actually very important?

[Basic knowledge about newborn breastfeeding]

Why is frequent breastfeeding necessary?

・A newborn baby's stomach: the size of a cherry

・Amount that can be drunk at one time: About 10-15ml

Breast milk digestion time: 1-2 hours

So you need to drink small amounts frequently

✅ Recommended number of breastfeedings

・Newborn: 8-15 times a day

- Within the first week of life: Particularly frequent (more than 20 times is normal)

・Feeding every hour: completely normal

・Rather, it is important for promoting breast milk secretion

[How to determine if you have insufficient breast milk]

Before you start worrying, "Maybe I don't have enough breast milk..."

Check for signs from your baby.

✅ Evidence of sufficient breast milk

- Urinating more than 6 times a day

・Pooping 3-4 times or more per day

- Takes some time to calm down after feeding

- Gradual weight gain

The baby's skin is firm

⚠️ If you suspect you don't have enough breast milk

- Urinating less than five times a day

- No poop for more than 3 days

-Continues crying even after breastfeeding

- Weight not increasing for more than a week

Skin becomes wrinkled

[About worries about waking up in the middle of the night]

"I don't wake up in the middle of the night... is this okay?"

Many mothers worry about the problem of their child waking up in the middle of the night.

✅ If you don't mind not getting up in the middle of the night

- Breastfeeding is done well during the day

・Steady weight gain

・Urine and feces are normal

・2 weeks or older

⚠️ When it's best to wake someone up in the middle of the night

・Within one week of age

Insufficient weight gain

- Fewer breastfeedings during the day (less than 6 times)

・Weak and unresponsive

Tips to make frequent breastfeeding easier

✅ How to reduce the burden on mothers

・Create a comfortable position with a nursing pillow

・Use horizontal, vertical, and football holds

・Master breastfeeding while lying down (makes nighttime easier)

Don't be too concerned about the intervals between feedings

✅ Support that dads can provide

・Responsible for burping and changing diapers

・Supports mom's hydration

・Putting the baby to sleep after nighttime feedings

・Say "You're doing a great job"

In fact, frequent breastfeeding is not just for the baby's nutritional needs,

It is also an important stimulus for promoting breast milk production in mothers .

The worry of "Is it okay to do this so frequently?"

"The baby is working hard to nourish mommy's breasts."

Think about it.

The effort you put in during this time will make your breastfeeding life easier in the future.

Is 12 hours of sleep a little too much for a newborn? The myth behind the 18-hour sleep limit

How to identify warning signs of not waking up in the middle of the night, reversing your day and night cycle, and sleeping too much

"My child never sleeps...18 hours is ridiculous!"

"On the contrary, I'm worried that he's sleeping too much... should I wake him up?"

For moms who feel pressured by the "ideal amount of sleep" written in parenting books.

In fact, there is a lot of individual variation in the amount of sleep a newborn baby needs.

[The truth about newborn sleep]

✅ Normal range of sleep time

・Average: 15-20 hours

Actual range: 12-22 hours

・If you are fine after 12-14 hours, there is no problem.

・If there is a reaction after 20 hours or more, it is normal

Why are there such large individual differences?

・Activity patterns in the mother's womb have an effect

・Baby who moved around a lot in the womb → Active even after birth

・Baby who was quiet in the womb → Sleeps well after birth

Differences in innate temperament

[Checkpoints more important than sleep time]

It's not the amount of sleep that matters,

"Are you getting good quality sleep?"

✅ Signs of good quality sleep

- Good mood when awake

- Sleep soundly after breastfeeding

- Move your arms and legs appropriately

There is power in crying

・Urination and pooping are going well

⚠️ Signs of worrying sleep

・Feeling exhausted and unresponsive all day

・Does not wake up even when woken up

- Weak crying

-Reluctant to breastfeed

- Abnormal body temperature (high fever/low body temperature)

[How to deal with reversed day and night]

"He only sleeps during the day and is fine at night... when will he get better?"

The reversal of day and night cycles in newborn babies is actually a very natural phenomenon.

✅ Why day and night reversal occurs

There was no difference between day and night in the womb

- Melatonin (sleep hormone) is still low

・Underdeveloped biological rhythms

This often continues until around 3-4 months of age

Tips for creating a natural rhythm of life

・Open the curtains in the morning to brighten the room

・Spend the daytime with normal everyday sounds

Dim the lights at night

・Don't force them to wake up, wait for their natural rhythm

[About worries about waking up in the middle of the night]

"I'm worried because you didn't wake up in the middle of the night... Are you okay?"

This is a question that many moms have.

✅ If you don't mind not getting up in the middle of the night

・2 weeks or older

- Breastfeeding is done well during the day

・Steady weight gain

・Urine and feces are normal

-Wake up and breastfeed normally

⚠️ When it's best to wake someone up

・Within one week of age

Insufficient weight gain

・Feeding intervals of 5-6 hours or more

・Low response even when woken up

[Tips for creating a good sleep environment]

✅ A safe and comfortable sleeping environment

・Room temperature: 20-25 degrees

・Humidity: 50-60%

・Sleeping on your back is the basic rule

-Do not place pillows or stuffed toys

- Moderate darkness (it doesn't have to be completely dark)

✅ Tips for moms to rest together

・Make it a point to sleep with your baby when he or she is asleep.

- Keep housework to a minimum

Take a nap without feeling guilty

・Believe that "a good sleeper grows well"

Please respect your child's own pace and watch over them with kindness.

Sleep is an important time that is essential for growth.

Respecting your baby's own rhythm

This leads to healthy development.

Questions asked at the one-month checkup and a complete preparation list

Underweight, concerns about developmental delays, and key points for pediatricians

"I wonder what the teacher will ask me..."

What if they tell me I'm not heavy enough?

The first one-month checkup is a very exciting event for mothers.

But the thing pediatricians want to know most is

"Are mom and baby happy?"

[Complete preparation list for one-month checkup]

✅ What to bring

・Maternal and Child Health Handbook

・Health insurance card

・Infant medical certificate

・Diapers and clothes (plenty)

・Breastfeeding supplies (if using milk)

・Question notes (prepared in advance)

✅ Preparing for the baby

- Finish breastfeeding one hour before the checkup

- Immediately before changing diapers

Wear clothes that are easy to take off

- No socks allowed (for weight measurement)

[Questions that are always asked during health checkups and model answers]

Q1: "Is breastfeeding going well?"

Model answer example:

"I breastfeed my baby ○ times a day. He is breastfed (formula), and after feeding he calms down and falls asleep for about ○ minutes. He urinates ○ times a day and poops ○ times a day."

Q2: "How well do you sleep at night?"

Model answer example:

"I wake up every x hours to breastfeed. My baby sleeps about x hours a day. I try to take naps with my baby."

Q3: "Are you concerned about your baby's condition?"

Best to answer honestly:

"I'm worried about ○○" "What should I do if ○○ happens?"

Don't feel like you have to be perfect, just be honest with your advice.

What to do when you are told you are underweight

"You haven't gained enough weight yet."

Don't panic if you hear that.

✅ Comprehensive criteria confirmed by pediatricians

- Tendency to gain weight (if the weight is increasing, there is no problem)

・Urine and feces situation

・Baby's mood and reaction

・Breastfeeding

・Mom's level of worry

✅ Suggestions for when weight gain is low

Increase the number of breastfeedings slightly

- Consider supplementing with milk

Recheck in 2 weeks

Advice to reduce mom's anxiety

[Points seen in developmental checks]

✅ Normal development of a 1-month-old baby

・It's okay if your child can't follow things with their eyes yet.

・Reacts to sound

・Move your arms and legs appropriately

・The baby is not yet able to hold its head up (around 3-4 months old)

・It's okay if you can't see the smile yet

✅ What teachers value

- Overall growth trends

・Mom's confidence in child-rearing

・Family support system

・Mom's physical and mental health

A list of must-ask questions

This is a great opportunity, so please feel free to ask any questions.

✅ Breastfeeding related

Is this an appropriate interval for breastfeeding?

"I'm worried about whether I'm getting enough breast milk."

How long will night feedings last?

✅ Growth and development related

Where are you on the growth curve?

Is there anything I need to be careful about in terms of development?

What should I be careful of before my next checkup?

✅ Daily care related

What should you pay attention to when it comes to skin care?

"Please tell me the room temperature and recommended clothing."

I want to check the vaccination schedule.

Pediatricians are reliable allies who will understand a mother's concerns and work with her to find a solution.

"So it's okay to talk about that sort of thing too?"

You will surely be enveloped in a sense of security.

What is the best day after birth for a shrine visit? A complete explanation of the differences between Kanto and Kansai

Deciding when to postpone if you're unwell, dealing with rain, and creating a modern shrine visit plan

"When should I go to the shrine visit?"

"I'm worried about the baby's health and would like to postpone..."

Mothers are torn between wanting to honor tradition and worrying about their babies' health.

Did you know that there are actually subtle differences between Kanto and Kansai?

[Differences in shrine visit dates between Kanto and Kansai]

✅ Kanto style

・Boy: 31 days old

・Girl: 32 days old

・Thoughts: "Girls are more mature, so I'll do it a little earlier."

✅ Kansai style

・Boy: 32 days old

・Girl: 33 days old

・Thoughts: "Girls are raised with more care, so give birth a little later."

✅ Modern thinking

・Baby and mother's health comes first

・Flexible adjustment between 1 month and 2 months after birth

・Choose a day when the whole family can visit with a smile

[Criteria for postponing due to poor health]

Babies around one month old are not yet used to going outside.

Temperature changes and crowds can be a big burden.

⚠️ When to postpone

・The baby has a cold

Mom's health is not good

・Bad weather (strong winds, rain, extreme heat, severe cold)

Family circumstances don't suit me

・Your baby is in a bad mood for several days

✅ Conditions suitable for worship

The baby is in a good mood

・The weather is calm

- Moderate temperature (around 15-25 degrees)

Mom's health is good

・The whole family can participate

[Measures to take in case of rain or bad weather]

✅ Decision to postpone on rainy days

Light rain: Can proceed if traveling by car

・Heavy rain: Don't push yourself and postpone

・Typhoons and storms: Absolutely postpone

God also wants the safety of your family.

✅ Seasonal precautions

・Spring (March to May): Take measures against hay fever and be aware of temperature changes

・Summer (June-August): Take precautions against heatstroke and be careful not to use air conditioning that is too strong

・Autumn (September to November): The best season to visit

・Winter (December to February): Take precautions against the cold and be careful of infectious diseases

[How to create a modern shrine visit plan]

✅ A schedule that prioritizes health

・10:00-11:00: Aim for the cooler morning hours

・Minimize travel time: Visit a nearby shrine by car

・Prayer time: Short, about 15-30 minutes

・Photoshoot: Can be done on a different day

Dinner parties: Postponement or simplification

✅ Baby Comfort Plan

・Calculate breastfeeding timing

・Check the diaper changing space

・Traveling with a baby carrier

Bring a spare change of clothes

・Prepare to return home halfway through

[Key points about clothing and preparation]

✅ Baby clothes

・White habutae underwear + ceremonial dress

Rental is also OK

・Measures to protect against the cold and heat according to the season

Choose something that is easy to put on and take off

✅ Mom's outfit

・Choosing clothes that take into account your postpartum body shape

Easy-to-breastfeed design

・Comfortable shoes

・Keep it formal

✅ Essential items checklist

・Diapers and wipes

・Change of clothes (2-3 sets)

・Breastfeeding supplies

·blanket

・First offering (approximately 5,000-10,000 yen)

・Cameras and smartphones

Don't think, "I have to go even if it's difficult."

Choose a day when your baby is in a good mood and the weather is nice.

Please choose a day when the whole family can visit with smiles on their faces.

I'm sure God would be pleased with such warm family feelings.

Solve your frustration of not being able to decide on a name! The number of strokes vs. sound debate is settled

Naming timing, rules for avoiding regrets, and modern ways of thinking

"I wonder if this name will make this child happy..."

"Should I focus on the number of strokes, or should I focus on the sound?"

The deeper your love for your child, the more difficult it becomes to choose a name.

The long-standing debate between those who prioritize the number of strokes and those who prioritize the sound.

Actually, both are correct.

[Reasons for feeling anxious about choosing a name and how to solve it]

✅ Common patterns of impatience

・The pressure to make a decision within 14 days

・Family members have different opinions

・I'm worried about the number of strokes and can't narrow down the candidates

・The weight of responsibility of a "lifelong name"

・The name chosen before birth doesn't suit the face

✅ How to relieve impatience

・You can still make the decision on the day of birth registration.

・Think of it as time to find a name that suits your child.

・There is no perfect name, a loving name is the best

- Value time to talk with your family

- Ensure that the parents have the final say

[Modern thinking on number of strokes vs. sound]

✅ The way of thinking of those who emphasize the number of strokes

・Choose a good number of strokes in your name

・"I want to support children with the power of letters"

- Traditional naming methods

・A sense of security based on a long history

✅ The way of thinking of those who prioritize resonance

・"It's a name you call every day, so it should have a beautiful sound."

Modern and stylish sound

・Internationalized names

Easy to remember and familiar

The best thinking today

・The number of strokes and the sound are important, but the top priority is "family love"

- Emphasis on readability and ease of writing

A name your child can be proud of

・Timeless universality

[Points to consider when naming modern names]

✅ Practicality check

Easy to explain over the phone

・Even people who don't know kanji can read it

・No trouble filling out paperwork

・Can be converted by inputting to a computer

- Easy to give nicknames

✅ Future Check

No discomfort from infancy to old age

・No occupational restrictions

・Can be used overseas (internationalization)

・Not influenced by trends

✅ Social skills check

-Do not cause bullying

Acceptable for older people too

- Not having too many friends of the same sex

・You can't mistake the gender

[Rules to avoid naming regrets]

✅ Avoid regret patterns

・Names that are too trendy

It's too complicated to read

・Focusing only on the number of strokes and neglecting the sound

・Imposing parents' hobbies too much

- Being too influenced by other people's opinions

✅ Satisfying naming conventions

Mom and Dad will love it

・Can explain the origin of the name

・Be proud to tell your children

・Family thoughts are included

・I feel like it's perfect for this child.

[Step-by-step guide to the naming process]

Step 1: Finding candidates (during pregnancy and before birth)

・Prepare 3-5 candidates for each gender

・Consider the number of strokes, sound, and meaning in a balanced way

・Consult with your family and narrow down the candidates

Step 2: Final decision (after birth to one week after birth)

・Look at the baby's face to narrow down the candidates

・Try calling it out loud

・Cherish each child's individuality

Step 3: Be certain (before submitting birth registration)

Make sure all family members are satisfied

・Final check to see if you have any concerns about the future

・I feel that it is a loving name

[FAQ on naming issues]

Q: I was told that my number of strokes was bad...

A: Fortune telling based on names is one point of reference. The most important thing is the love of the parents. A name given with love, regardless of the number of strokes, is more valuable to a child than a name with a good number of strokes but given without love.

Q: My relatives are opposed to my plan.

A: The final decision rests with the parents. Listen to the opinions of your relatives only for reference, and make your decision with the mindset that "we are the ones who are most responsible for this child's life."

Q: I'm worried that my name might be considered flashy.

A: As long as the name is easy to read and explain, it's fine. There's a difference between "unique" and "quirky." Choose a name that you can be proud of for your child, within reason.

The important thing is that mom and dad can truly feel that this name is the best.

Because that confidence will foster pride in your child's name.

A name that your child will cherish for the rest of their life.

Find a wonderful name that will bring a smile to the faces of the whole family.

How to efficiently change newborn diapers 20 times a day and prevent poop leaks

Worried about excessive frequency? How many days until constipation is okay? Complete leakage prevention techniques

"I just changed it again...how many times a day do you change it?"

"I haven't had a poop in three days, is that okay?"

"My clothes got dirty again..."

Many mothers are probably surprised by the frequency of diaper changes and leaks.

During the newborn period, diapers are changed 15-20 times a day.

In fact, it is an important barometer for knowing the baby's health.

[The truth about how many times you need to change a newborn's diaper]

✅ Why is this so frequent?

- Newborn bladder: small, about the size of a ping-pong ball

- Kidneys are immature and frequently excrete thin urine

Active intestinal peristalsis

- Reflexively poops every time you breastfeed

✅ Normal number of times

Urination: 10-15 times a day

・Poo: 3-8 times a day

・Total number of diaper changes: 15-20 times

・It is normal to have it every time you breastfeed.

Constipation Concerns: "How long will it be okay?"

"I haven't had a bowel movement for two days... am I constipated?"

Many mothers worry about constipation in their newborns.

✅ If you are breastfeeding

・It may be normal if you don't have a bowel movement for 3-5 days.

Breast milk is easily digested and absorbed, and little remains in the stool

If your baby is in a good mood, there's no need to worry.

・It's OK if your stomach isn't bloated

✅ If you are breastfeeding

・If you don't go for 2-3 days, you may be constipated

Formula takes longer to digest than breast milk

- Stools tend to become hard

- Often improves with hydration

⚠️ Signs of constipation that require medical attention

・My stomach is bloated

- Bad mood and constant crying

-Reluctant to breastfeed

Vomiting

- No poop for over a week

[Complete leak prevention technique]

"It's leaking down my back again..."

Leaky poop is a constant worry for newborn mothers.

✅ Basic leak prevention technology

・Do not fold the gathers of the diaper inward

・Fits snugly around the thighs

- One finger's worth of room at the waist

・Raise it to a position that covers your belly button

・Apply the tape in the shape of the letter "H"

Tips for choosing the right size

・Focus on thigh circumference rather than weight

・If the gathers are digging in, increase the size.

・On the other hand, too much space is not acceptable.

-Sizes vary depending on the manufacturer

✅ Time-specific measures

・Nighttime: One size larger for longer use

・Daytime: Wear the right size and change frequently

Before going out: Always change into a new diaper

・Before breastfeeding: Time your baby to poop

[Efficient and time-saving diaper changing techniques]

✅ Perfect your preparation

・Spread out new diapers and prepare them

・Take out the baby wipes

- Prepare a plastic bag for dirty clothes

・Keep your change of clothes within easy reach

✅ Exchange Technique

- Wipe roughly with the front of the soiled diaper

- Put on a new diaper and then remove the old one

・Boys should be careful not to pee the moment they take it off.

Girls wipe from front to back

Apply the cream thinly and evenly

✅ Tips for each location

・Living room: Lay down a special mat

・Bedroom: Get used to operating it in the dark

・When out and about: Check in advance for diaper changing spaces

・Interior: Measures to prevent seats from getting dirty

[Complete prevention of diaper rash]

✅ Basics for preventing rashes

・Wipe gently with baby wipes (do not rub)

- Allow to dry completely before putting on a diaper

Apply a thin layer of protective cream

- Replace immediately if it gets wet

✅ If you get a rash

Wash with lukewarm water without using baby wipes

・Press to remove moisture

Apply a thick layer of protective cream

If severe, consult a pediatrician

[Smart way to choose diapers]

✅ How to choose a product that is cost-effective

・For newborns, try a small pack.

・Find a brand that suits your baby's body shape

・When buying in bulk, include items one size larger.

・Use different products for night and day

✅ Functionality-focused features

High absorption capacity

・Feels good on the skin

・Elasticity of gathers

・Adhesive strength of the tape

・Price balance

There's no need to worry about whether it's okay to change so much.

By using clean diapers, you can protect your baby's sensitive skin.

It also leads to a comfortable sleep.

Frequent diaper changes are a sign of love.

Mom's tears won't stop one month after giving birth - How to deal with maternity blues

Postpartum depression checklist, dad support tips, and anxiety about how long it will last

"I can't stop crying... am I crazy?"

"Babies are cute, but for some reason I feel depressed..."

For mothers who are confused by the emotional turmoil caused by hormonal changes after giving birth.

"Maternity blues" occurs around 3-10 days after giving birth.

It is a natural phenomenon that approximately 80% of mothers experience.

[The difference between maternity blues and postpartum depression]

✅ Maternity blues (postpartum blues)

・Onset: 3-10 days after birth

・Duration: Within 2 weeks

Symptoms: tearfulness, anxiety, irritability

・Level: Daily life possible

Causes: Hormonal changes, environmental changes

・How to deal with it: Natural improvement with rest and understanding

⚠️ Postpartum depression

・Onset: Within 2 weeks to 1 year after birth

・Duration: 2 weeks or more

Symptoms: Deep despair, lack of interest in childcare

・Level: Interference with daily life

・Cause: Complex factors

Treatment: Professional treatment required

[Postpartum Depression Self-Checklist]

If any of the following symptoms persist for more than two weeks, consult a doctor:

□ Emotional check

Continued feelings of sadness and despair

Tears for no reason

Irritability and anger

Strong feelings of anxiety and worry

-Extreme mood swings

□ Behavioral check

I don't feel any love for my baby

・Childcare is a burden

・I can't do housework

I don't want to meet people

I can't enjoy things that used to be fun

□ Physical check

No appetite (or eating too much)

・Can't sleep (or sleep too much)

・Strong feeling of fatigue

Headaches and body aches

・Lack of concentration

□ Thinking check

Blaming yourself

・I think I'm a bad mother

・I can't make decisions

・Decreased memory

No hope for the future

[Physiological and mental changes due to hormonal changes]

Why does this change occur?

✅ Postpartum hormonal changes

・Estrogen (female hormone): Rapid decrease

Progesterone: Decreases to pre-pregnancy levels

Prolactin: Rapid rise due to breast milk secretion

Oxytocin: The love hormone is released

✅ Effects on mind and body

Intense emotional waves

・Becoming tearful

Increasing anxiety

Increased fatigue

・Loss of concentration

[Effective support techniques that dads can provide]

A dad's support is a great source of emotional support for a mom.

✅ Tips for speaking

・"Are you okay?" → "Thank you for your hard work today"

・"Can I help you?" → "I'll do ○○ for you"

・"Don't cry" → "Tell me your story"

・"Stay strong" → "Let's get through this together"

✅ Specific support

・Putting the baby to sleep after nighttime feedings

・Actively change diapers and burp

-Preparing meals for mom

- Take the lead in doing housework

・Create rest time for mom

✅ Things you should not do

・Dismissing it by saying, "It's a path that everyone goes through"

・Pressure from others saying, "I'm a mother"

- Imposing solutions

- Denying mom's feelings

- Competing with others by saying, "I'm tired too."

[Tips for overcoming maternity blues]

✅ What moms can do themselves

Don't strive for perfection

・Praise yourself by saying, "I did my best today."

- Take a nap with your baby

・Relax with your favorite music and scents

Talk to someone you trust about your feelings

✅ What families can do

- Acknowledge mom's hard work

Allowing people to cut corners on housework

・Create opportunities to go out

Prepare a delicious meal

・Let them know they are not alone

✅ How long will it last? Estimated recovery time

・Maternity blues: improved within two weeks after giving birth

・Hormonal balance: Stabilizes around 3 months after giving birth

・Sleep rhythm: Improves around 6 months after giving birth

・Mental stability: Varies from person to person, may take up to a year

[When to get professional support]

⚠️ When early consultation is important

- Depression continues for more than two weeks

I can't feel love for my baby

・Feeling like abandoning your child

Feeling like you want to hurt yourself or your baby

・Unable to lead daily life

✅ Where to consult

・Obstetrician-gynecologist

Pediatrician

・Public health nurse (local government newborn visitor)

・Psychiatry/Psychosomatic medicine

・Postpartum care center

Moms aren't looking for solutions,

It's about having your hard work recognized.

The thought that "I'm not alone" is the greatest support.

There is no such thing as a perfect mom.

Just being able to spend one day with my baby was enough of a reward.

Make the most of newborn midwives' visiting services! A complete guide to free services

Is it okay to refuse? Question list, childcare advice, and how to avoid losses

"Will the midwife come? I don't know what to ask..."

"I want to decline because my house is not tidy..."

Surprisingly, many mothers are unaware of the newborn visiting system.

In fact, this is a free service provided by the local government.

This system is available to any family with a baby up to four months old.

[Basic knowledge of the newborn visit system]

✅ Overview of the system

・Official name: "Home Visits to All Infant Families"

・Target: Babies up to 4 months old and their mothers

・Cost: Completely free (funded by taxes)

・Visitors: midwives, public health nurses, nurses

・Time required: 30 minutes to 1 hour

✅ Purpose of visit

・Checking the baby's growth and development

・Checking mom's physical and mental health

・Childcare consultation

・Providing information on local childcare support

・Early detection of postpartum depression

[Resolving the question, "Is it okay to refuse?"]

"I'm embarrassed because my house is messy..."

"I don't want you to come because I'm not feeling well."

✅ It is possible to refuse

It is not a legal obligation

・It's okay to refuse

・You can also request a visit at a later date

・Can be changed to a telephone consultation

✅ But why do we recommend using it?

Have your baby checked by a professional

・You can directly talk to your mom about her concerns

・Get local childcare information

・Completely free service

・You don't have to worry about tidying up the housework.

✅ Tips to make it easier for visitors

・Tell them, "It's okay if your room is messy."

- Specify the time when mom is in good health

- Set when dad is at home

Write down your questions in advance

A list of must-ask questions

Midwives are baby experts and mothers' best friends.

"Is it okay to ask something like this?" There's absolutely no need to be shy about asking.

✅ Baby Questions

"Is this a good way to gain weight?"

Is this the right way to breastfeed?

"Is the color and frequency of your stool normal?"

Is there anything I should be careful about regarding my skin condition?

"My baby cries a lot at night, is there anything I can do about it?"

"Are there any developmental concerns?"

✅ Parenting questions

Is this the right way to bathe?

"Please tell me about room temperature and humidity control."

"Please tell me how to prevent diaper rash."

"When can I go out?"

I'd like to discuss my vaccination schedule.

✅ Questions about yourself

Is there anything I should be careful about after giving birth?

What should I be careful about when eating while breastfeeding?

"I've been feeling depressed..."

"I'm dizzy from lack of sleep."

"My relationship with my dad is strained."

✅ Questions about local information

"Do you have any recommendations for a nearby pediatrician?"

"Please tell me about the childcare support center."

Can I use temporary childcare?

Is there an opportunity to make mom friends?

"Please tell me who to contact in case of an emergency."

[Procedure and preparation on the day of the visit]

✅ Preparation before your visit

・Prepare a maternal and child health handbook

Make a note of your questions

- Summarize your baby's normal behavior

・Prepare breastfeeding supplies (for demonstration purposes)

・Bring a scale if you have one (you can bring one if you don't have one)

✅ Flow of the day

1. Greetings and explanation of the system (5 minutes)

2. Medical interview and consultation (15 minutes)

3. Baby's physical measurements and observations (10 minutes)

4. Parenting guidance and advice (15 minutes)

5. Providing local information and guidance on future consultations (10 minutes)

6. Discussion about next follow-up (5 minutes)

✅ Measurement and check details

・Weight, height, head circumference, and chest circumference measurements

・Skin condition check

・Check reflexes and muscle tone

- Nutritional status assessment

・Observation of developmental status

[Preparation for maximum use]

✅ Be open with your partner

You don't need to pretend to be perfect

・Tell me honestly what is bothering you

・"Can I ask you this?" is a taboo phrase

Don't be shy and ask them to demonstrate

✅ Build lasting relationships

・Ask for contact details

・Discuss the next visit

・Get information about local childcare groups

・Check how to contact us in an emergency

✅ Support for the whole family

- Dad listens to the story too

・Get explanatory materials for grandparents

・Consultation on division of family roles

・Share childcare knowledge with everyone

The midwife actually holds the baby,

They will also measure your baby's weight and check their development.

At this time, it is important to honestly communicate your "normal behavior."

You don't have to pretend to be perfect.

Please be honest about any concerns or worries you may have.

"You don't have to worry alone"

Please take advantage of this valuable opportunity to gain such a sense of security.

Preventing wasteful purchases of newborn care items and a list of essentials

Things I regret buying, top priority purchases, and rental tips

"You said I need this and that, but do I really need all of them?"

I bought it but never used it...

For moms who are confused by the flood of childcare products.

In reality, newborn babies actually need less than you might think.

[5 Absolutely Essential "Must-Have Items"]

✅ 1. Diaper related

・Disposable diapers (for newborns): 15-20 diapers per day for 7 days

・Baby wipes: Thick type recommended

- Diaper trash can: odor prevention is essential

・Baby wipe warmer: Very useful

✅ 2. Breastfeeding supplies

・Baby bottles: 1-2 (necessary even if breastfeeding is the main method)

・Powdered milk: 1 small can (for emergencies)

・Nursing cushion: Reduces strain on the mother's body

・Breast pads: Essential for breastfeeding moms

✅ 3. Underwear and clothing

・Short underwear: 5-6 pieces

・Long underwear or combination underwear: 5-6 pieces

・Baby clothes: 3-4 pieces

・Socks: 2-3 pairs

✅ 4. Bathing and care products

・Baby soap (foam type recommended)

・Gauze handkerchiefs: about 10 pieces

・Bath towels: 3-4

・Cotton swabs ・Nail clippers

✅ 5. Bedding

・Baby bedding set

・Swaddling cloths: 2-3 pieces

・Waterproof sheets: 2-3 sheets

[Ranking of things experienced moms regret buying]

We'll teach you the wisdom to avoid unnecessary purchases based on real-life experiences.

🥇 #1: Newborn-sized clothes (bulk purchase)

Reason: They quickly outgrow the size

Countermeasure: Purchase small amounts of 50-60cm size

・Alternative: Use hand-me-downs or rentals

🥈 2nd place: Baby bottle set (6 bottles, etc.)

Reason: No longer necessary once breastfeeding is underway

Countermeasures: First try 1-2 bottles and see how it goes.

・Alternative: Purchase additional items later if necessary

🥉 3rd place: Baby bath

Reason: The period of use is short (about 1 month)

Countermeasure: An adult-sized bathtub is sufficient.

Alternative: Use a sink or clothing case instead

4th place: Toys for newborns

Reason: Newborns have poor eyesight and are less responsive

Countermeasure: Wait until the baby is 2-3 months old

Alternative: A homemade rattle will do.

5th place: Baby bed (purchase)

Reason: If you are a co-sleeper, you won't use it.

Solution: Try renting first

Alternative: Lay the baby futon on the floor

[On the other hand, things you regret buying]

✅ Products to reduce the burden on moms

・Bouncer: Calms the baby

Electric breast pump: Makes breastfeeding easier

・Nursing light: Makes nighttime nursing easier

・Postpartum shorts: Essential for postpartum care

✅ Hygiene and care products

・Baby wipe warmer: Baby won't mind

Humidifier: Protects newborn skin and respiratory tract

・Air purifier: Prevents infectious diseases

・Thermometer (non-contact type): Easy to take temperature

✅ Time-saving and convenient items

・Dishwasher: Easy to sterilize baby bottles

・Home delivery of ingredients: Very useful when you can't go shopping

・Cleaning robot: Reduces floor cleaning time

・Frozen foods: Reduce the burden of cooking

[Smart shopping tips: "How to use rental items"]

✅ Recommended rental products

・Baby bed: Short period of use

・Child seat: Change as your child grows

・Stroller: Try it out before purchasing

・Bouncer: I don't know what my baby likes

・Weight scale: Use only during health checkups

✅ Benefits of renting

・Reduces initial costs

You can try it out before deciding to buy it

You don't have to think about where to store it

・No maintenance required

・Just return it when you no longer need it

✅ Tips for using rental cars

・Definitely a good deal for a short period (1-3 months)

・If you are planning to use it for a long period of time, consider purchasing it.

・Discounts for renting multiple items at the same time

・Allow ample time for return deadlines

["When you really need it" by age]

✅ Necessary for newborns (0-1 months)

・Diapers, nursing supplies, underwear, bathing supplies

・This is all you need to get through

✅ What your baby will need at 2-3 months

・Toys (rattle, merry-go-round)

・Outdoor items (strollers, baby carriers)

・Vaccination-related goods

✅ What your baby will need at 4-6 months

・Baby food products

・Sitting aids

・Dental care products

[Best value for money purchasing strategy]

✅ The Law of Prioritization

1. Safety-related items → Absolute purchase

2. Items used every day → Buy with an emphasis on quality

3. Things that save time → Reducing the burden on mothers

4. Useful but not essential → Wait and see

✅ Money saving tips

・Actively utilize hand-me-downs

・Used items in good condition on flea market apps

- Buy only what you need rather than buying in bulk

・Make the most of samples and free samples

・Aim for days with high point redemption rates

✅ Tips for choosing the right product

・Check reviews with a focus on negative reviews

・Touch and check in store

・Consider whether it can be used even after growth

・Ease of maintenance and cleaning

・Check safety standards (SG mark, etc.)

We tend to loosen our purse strings thinking, "For the sake of the baby," but

What really matters is "Mom's smile."

Please create an environment that is comfortable for the whole family, within reasonable limits.

You can just buy what you need later.

The most important thing is to start with the bare minimum and get used to life with a baby.